It is not important what others think about you;
it is important what you think about yourself.
We spend way too much time and energy focused on what others think of us, and we let it affect the things we choose to do or not do. Last week, we started talking about ways to shift that mindset. I agree with the quote above. Yes, other people influence us in many good and bad ways.
But, in the long run, what matters most is what we think of ourselves. What do we think of how we have spent our time on earth, our money on causes, and the careers and interests we pursued? And, at the proverbial end of the day, were those choices ours (or someone else’s), and are we content with those choices?
Limiting Mindset:
● “I worry about what others will think about me.”
Empowering Mindset:
● “What others think of me matters, but does not control or determine what I choose to do.”
● “What truly matters is what I think of myself.”
● “My opinion of myself is the one that counts.”
● “I am secure in who I am.”
● “I avoid striving to make everyone happy.”
The key to rewriting this limiting mindset is to realize that what others think of us simply does not matter. In the long scheme of things, does it really make a difference if others think more or less of us? No, it doesn’t.
What truly matters is what we think of ourselves.
Our opinion of ourselves is the one that counts the most. And as we’ve said before, we are worthy and valuable. This is the opinion you should have of yourself!! Do not let the opinions of others drag you down. Their opinions hold no weight compared to your own opinion of yourself.
Our new mindset is that the opinions of others have a limited effect on us one way or the other.
We are free from caring what others think of us. We are secure in ourselves, knowing that we are valuable and worthy. We no longer strive to make everyone happy. Instead, we focus on making ourselves happy and ensuring that we are pursuing our dreams and goals.
Action Steps
● Regularly look in the mirror and say to yourself, “I don’t have to try to make everyone else happy. My opinion of myself is all that matters.”
● Create a list that says, “People I Must Please” at the top. Leave the list blank as a statement that you’re done with worrying about what others think about you.
Affirmation
I refuse to play the people-pleasing game.
I affirm that the opinions of others fail to have absolute sway over my life.
My opinion of myself is all that matters.
I strive to achieve my dreams and accomplish my goals without worrying about what others think about me.
I choose to believe the best about myself at all times.
I avoid letting the opinions of others drag me down or pull me off course.
Try it!! Once we get ourselves out of the people-pleasing business life becomes much more enjoyable and much less complicated.
Chat soon.
Martina
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