Take responsibility of your own happiness,
never put it in other people’s hands.
Last week, we started talking about taking responsibility for our current situation. It is not always a pleasant task, but a necessary one. We all make mistakes in life, take missteps, and follow bad or questionable advice, but at the end of the proverbial day, it is we who have made the choice to make the moves. Maybe it was an investment that did not work out for you. Or, you are staying in a job you really hate because your best friends are there. Or, perhaps it’s a mountain of debt that seems impossible to rein in.
Let’s look at some ways to start to dig our way out…
Our current self-talk:
● “I’m not responsible for where I am in life.”
● “I am fully responsible for my life.”
● “I take ownership of my circumstances.”
● “I refuse to play the victim game.”
● “I can create different circumstances.”
● “I am in charge of my life and determine what it looks like.”
If we are going to make progress in life, it is essential that we take full responsibility for the circumstances in which we find ourselves. Yes, other people play a role in our lives, but ultimately, we are responsible for what we accept, what we do, and what we refuse.
If we find ourselves in a particular set of circumstances, it is because we have accepted them. We have decided that we are okay with those circumstances and we have chosen not to make any real efforts to change them.
Our new belief is: “I am fully responsible for every area of my life.”
This is actually an incredibly freeing belief. Once we accept that we created our current circumstances, we can then go about figuring out ways to change them.
You can take the necessary actions to change our lives in incredible, ways. We do not have to stay stuck. We do not have to be or play the victim. We are in charge of our lives, and we can reshape them to be closer to what we want them to be. This is not magic!! It will not happen overnight, but we can make changes.
● Write down any circumstances you are unhappy about.
● Take full ownership of those circumstances, even if others played a part in creating them.
● Identify specific action steps you must take to change your circumstances.
● Daily affirm that you are completely in control of your life and that you are responsible for the outcomes.
I am the captain of my fate.
I am responsible for every positive and negative thing that comes into my life and stays in my life.
I take full ownership of the current state of my life.
I do what is necessary to create the life I desire.
I refuse to play the victim of circumstances beyond my control or feel that I am at the complete mercy of others.
Instead, I take action.
This is my life and I can build it how I please.
We get one precious life. We all make mistakes, but we can choose not to wallow in them for the rest of our days. We can take ownership, do something and make lasting changes. Pick a thread of your life that you are not completely satisfied with right now. It is your choice. Do nothing about it, except keep worrying, and wasting mental time and energy on it. Or, get up, make a plan, and do something different!!