You can be hurt, not by what others think of you,
but by what you think of what they think
or you think they think of you.
In the last post, we talked about how to instill the positive belief that we are worthy of success. Do you still harbor doubts about yourself? Do you wonder what others think about you? Today, we will take a look at this limiting belief.
This is one of the most common limiting beliefs that people struggle with. We worry, and even obsess over, what others think about us.
We worry that if we are too successful, people will think you’re stuck up and supercilious. We worry that if we are not successful enough, people will look down on you.
If we stand up for ourselves, we worry that people will think we are overly assertive. If we try to be peacemakers, we worry that we will come across as a weakling, a doormat.
Worrying about what others think of us can be incredibly draining. It saps our time, our energy, and can suck all the joy out of life. It keeps us from being productive and often causes us to second guess ourselves at every turn.
Our limiting belief is that if we do, or don’t do certain things, others will think less of us.
If we do not keep this limiting belief in check, it can become an obsession. It can keep us from pursuing our dreams and cause us to constantly be afraid of what others are thinking.
The fear of what others think of us can be like a great weight hanging around our necks, dragging us down, and keeping us from making forward progress.
Now let us rethink and rewrite this limiting thinking into a set of empowering beliefs.
● “I worry about what others will think about me.”
● “What truly matters is what I think of myself.”
● “My opinion of myself is the one that counts.”
● “I am secure in who I am.”
● “I avoid striving to make everyone happy.”
The key to rewriting this limited mindset is to realize that what others think of you simply does not matter. In the long game of life, does it matter if others think more or less of you? No, it doesn’t.
What truly matters is what you think of yourself.
Next week we will talk about how to start making this shift.