Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.
The fearful are caught as often as the bold.
Overcoming fears might appear simple in concept, but the actual application of the techniques is never easy, especially for the person directly involved. Depending on the intensity of the fear, some people may be able to confront it alone, while others will require a great deal of help from others. Nonetheless, it is important that you do something about it. When you are able to successfully work through some of your fears, you will open up more many more opportunities for personal and career growth.
Slow and steady keeps you on track
This works best with a high degree of fear. Here we are not talking simple fear like the fear of being rejected when asking someone out for a date. This kind of fear leaves you with an inability to take action in the presence of fear. So, take one small, initial step instead of aiming for a huge leap right away. Being able to get through the small steps safely and securely, should help boost your confidence enough to make the succeeding steps.
In order for you to build up courage and make that small step, clearly identifying your fear is absolutely essential. After taking several of these small steps successfully, you will be able to extend that new level of confidence into other areas of your life as well.
Find a motivation
Working to face and overcome fears is often a difficult process that requires time. But you shouldn’t be demoralized by the fact that it doesn’t happen instantaneously or overnight. One method for keeping yourself actively moving forward and making the effort that is required to combat your fears is by replacing your negative thinking processes and thoughts with different ones that motivate you.
One way to approach this in a more concrete fashion is to make a list of all of the benefits that you feel you will accrue by making a change, or changes, in your behavior that is specifically related to your fears. Seeing all the possible benefits that you might enjoy will help motivate you to get going in the advocacy of eliminating fear in your life.
Change the way you see things
Often, when people suffer from failure or rejection, it can spiral into more negative thoughts that can lead to some self-destructive behaviors. However, remember that everyone foes through setbacks at some point in their lives. This is a reality of life that you need to understand and embrace.
So, if failure or setback is bound to come to your doorstep, then it is incumbent upon you to change your view about failure and rejection. Instead of letting these things demoralize you, open your mind, and use it as a learning opportunity rather than as a punishment. Use it to help you pinpoint the areas of your life that you think need to be improved to meet with success.
Face reality
Most people’s fears are associated with unpleasant experiences from there the past or worries associated with their future. So, one of the most obvious ways that you can overcome such fears is to focus on the present, the “here and now.” Focus on learning to make plans and realizing them. You can make plans and act on them, or you can wear yourself down with worries and fears. If this is where you spend most of your time, stuck, then you will neither fail nor achieve anything.
Redefine… you
One of the most effective methods of working through your fear is to redefine yourself and how you will view and use your fear.
For any of this stuff to work, you must become an active participant in each of the steps in order to make effective progress in your fight against your fears. When you dedicate yourself to the fight and the process, all of these steps will eventually become second nature to you; you won’t have to think about them. Working through your fears also allows you to see the world in a more positive light, and a place where fear does not overshadow everything.
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