Banish self-destructive beliefs for good

There are seeds of self-destruction in all of us

that will bear only unhappiness

if allowed to grow.

What you think and believe about yourself, your life , and the rest of the world has a powerful impact on your everyday existence. Unfortunately, some of the beliefs that people hold are downright destructive to the process of living a successful and fulfilling life. But, if you can identify those self-sabotaging thoughts, you can then work to banish them from your life for good.

Check out this list of un-helpful thoughts and see if any of them are familiar to you. If so, vow to yourself that as soon as you recognize them, you will replace these negative, irrational thoughts with more positive, realistic ones.

Have you ever thought our felt:

1. “I’ll never have the life I want.” How do you think you will be able to continue to move forward and work toward accomplishing what you want if you really start to believe this statement? Thinking in these terms, quite simply, relieves you of having to make any efforts whatsoever toward what you want. Discard this thought now!

Replace it with a more positive concept like, “I work each day toward getting the life that I want to have and here’s how I can do it.” See the difference? A positive thought followed by a specific plan!

2. “It’s just like my Mom/ Dad said: I won’t ever amount to anything.” We aren’t all lucky enough to have had super positive and supportive parents. You might have had a mom or dad who often said demeaning things to you or who just didn’t see the potential you had locked inside of you.

Dumping these long-standing and self-deprecating beliefs will do you a world of good! Free yourself today from remaining loyal to your parent’s sentiments about you. Instead, begin creating your own truth through the actions that you will take each and every day to live your best life.

3. “I’m not pretty / handsome enough to hook up with the person I want.” A good way to nullify this ill-conceived notion is to just look around you every day. Everyone who has a partner doesn’t meet the standards of Miss America or the nearly perfect Ken doll.

Each person has her own unique look and style. That is of course unless you’re a twin or multiple. It really is okay that your hair isn’t perfect or you’re not as tall as you’d like to be. Take an honest look at yourself and notice your strengths.

4. “My life is like this because that’s just the way things are. I can’t do anything about it.” This fatalistic way of thinking will relegate you for certain to living a blah life waiting for something to happen and for someone else to do it. Why not turn the tables? Instead of waiting for life to do something for you, take the proverbial bull by the horns and create your own life step by step, day by day.

Identify the power you have to create the life that you want. Then use that power, which you already possess, to construct the life you seek.

5. “I am not smart enough to get the job I want.” This type of thinking will only serve to convince you that you can’t have the career you pine for. Instead, recognize that you don’t have to be the “sharpest crayon in the box” to land a job and create a career that brings you joy, confidence, and good fortune.

Commit right now to take steps to do whatever is necessary to obtain the career you seek.

6. “Money problems keep plaguing me. My finances are out of my control.” This thought can be devastating to your life over the years. Recognize that you are 100% responsible for your finances. And keep in mind that it’s not how much money you make, it’s how much money you keep and save that will determine the kind of financial life you live.

Take a long, hard look at your personal financial practices. If necessary, go see a budget counselor to help you get your bills paid off. More importantly, they can help you write up a budget that will ensure that you will save money over the years, regardless of the amount you earn.

Throw out these old, destructive beliefs and replace them now with new, positive, more realistic ways of thinking.

You can be successful in life, starting right now!

Thoughts?

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