It’s not the load that breaks you down;
it’s the way you carry it.
If you have confidence in yourself, tend to think independently, and make your own choices in life, it wouldn’t be all that surprising to discover you prefer to figure most things out by yourself. Because you are reasonably self-assured, you might not like to ask for help, even if it’s necessary. Whether we like it or not, every one of us could benefit from occasionally accepting a hand from another human being. Not only that, but when you ask for assistance, other people also stand to benefit in ways you may not always have considered.
9 reasons why you may want to ask someone to help you, even if you find it difficult to do
1. Things get done. You accomplish the goal that you are after. Let us say that you need to get to a job interview and your car is still in the shop. Why not go ahead and ask your friend to drive you? If you have a goal that you want to achieve and you can accomplish it with a little bit of help, then ask for and graciously accept some assistance.
2. Dump your superhuman act. You show that you’re human. If you are full of confidence and seem to always do everything right, people can easily put you up on a pedestal. However, when you request aid from others, they realize that even someone as cool as you falters once in a while as you walk your path through life. This can be really inspirational to them.
3. You set an effective example. The key word here is effective. You are an example to others in many ways; to your co-workers, friends, and family members. If you usually just get straight to the point and request a hand as soon as you recognize that you need it, you help others by de-stigmatizing the whole idea of getting help.
When your friends and family face a challenge, they’ll think, “Hey, Sarah didn’t hesitate to seek out some extra help right away whenever she needed it and that’s so smart. I’m going to do it, too.” And, once again, you have an opportunity to be helpful to them, as well!
4. You give others a chance to help you. Most people feel very good about themselves when they are able to extend assistance to others. By asking and allowing others to help you, you are allowing them to feel those rewarding emotions.
5. De-stress. The level of stress that you are experiencing will drop dramatically. If you are busy trying to get everything done perfectly, and being all things to all people, it can be very stressful when something goes wrong. Anxieties and worries develop and persist. The longer you worry about a situation, the worse you feel. Getting help means that you can avoid a great deal of that distress.
6. You develop a true appreciation for others. You will love seeing concrete proof that others support you and want to see you be successful in life.
7. You enhance your relationships. When you request aid from a friend or relative, that person feels emotionally closer to you. After all, if you feel comfortable enough to reach out for help, that is a huge compliment to the other person. Plus, when the person comes to your aid, you will be able to clearly see how much that person really cares about you.
8. Reciprocation feels awesome! Doing something as thanks to the friend who helped you will bring pleasure to both of you.
9. You show that you’re an efficient and effective “manager” of your own life. You can either spend your time, wile away your emotional energy, and lose hours of sleep trying to figure an issue out on your own, or you can ask for help and probably get it done much more quickly. Which of these methods sounds more efficient?
There are many good reasons that you may want to go ahead and ask for help periodically. Giving and receiving assistance can really enrich your life. You will strengthen your relationships and be a better person for it!
Thoughts?
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