Above everything else, genuinely love yourself first.
Self-love is powerful and it’s the best love that you will ever have.
When you love who YOU are, your relationships will be healthier and your life will be happier.
Self-love sets the standard in how we allow others to treat us and how we treat ourselves.
Your happiness and well-being is important.
Protect it by always valuing who you are!
In the last post for this series, we learned that our opinion of ourselves is the only one that truly matters. This week, we will see that how we treat ourselves matters, too.
We are compassionate, kind, and loving people. When someone makes a mistake, we are gracious toward them, understanding that everyone makes mistakes.
We are patient with others, giving them time to learn and change. If someone struggles with a particular task or doesn’t make as much progress on a task as expected, we give them grace.
But we don’t treat ourselves in the same way.
For some reason, we do not believe that we deserve the same love, compassion, grace, benefit of the doubt, and understanding that we give to others.
Maybe we were told from a young age that we needed to be perfect in everything we do. Perhaps not told verbally, but demonstrated in the way people dealt with us. Maybe we have somehow unconsciously adopted the idea that we should never make the same mistakes that others make. That we are somehow above or beyond that.
Whatever the case, what we learned was to be hard on ourselves.
Our limiting belief is that we should be perfect, and if we are not perfect we feel like we have let “everyone” down, and we need to punish ourselves.
When we make a mistake, we endlessly berate yourself, feeling like we shouldn’t have made it. We do not show the same compassion or gracious and loving nature toward ourselves. We do not love ourselves very much. We continue to hold ourselves to an impossible standard. I know how this feels. I live here sometimes myself.
This limiting belief makes us feel like we are never enough, and can never be enough. Like we are never worthy, never acceptable, never doing enough things. It is a very unhappy limiting belief.
Now let’s rewrite the limiting belief with a set of empowering beliefs.
Limiting Belief:
● “I do not give myself the love, compassion, and understanding I give to others.”
Empowering Belief:
● “I am human and it is okay that I make mistakes.”
● “I deserve the same grace, compassion, and understanding that I eagerly give others.”
● “I am patient and loving toward myself.”
● “I treat myself the same way that I treat others.”
It’s truly important to rewrite this limiting belief. If we do not, we will always be unhappy, miserable, feel second-rate, and like we’re never doing enough!!
Next week, we’ll chat a bit more about the toxicity of this mindset, and work on ways to elevate it and ourselves.
Chat soon!!
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