We don’t have to do all of it alone.
We were never meant to.
Brené Brown
In the last post, we talked about how treating ourselves with kindness helps us reach our goals. Today, we will discover how letting others help us can benefit us in many ways.
We live in a culture that applauds those who rise to the top all by themselves. Although, as a dear friend often reminds her entrepreneurial students, no one rises, no one gets discovered or gets seen all by themselves.
In our culture, it’s very easy to feel like we need to do everything ourselves. To feel like we can’t ask for help. To feel like asking for help is a sign of significant weakness. And if we are especially competent, maybe we can do many things without a lot of help from others.
And so, we fall into a mindset of never asking for assistance. We try to do everything on our own, thinking that if we can get by without the help of others, it is a sign of strength.
But in reality, not ever being able to ask for help is a sign of weakness. The truth is that none of us can do everything on our own. We all have limitations, blind spots, and areas of weakness. Not one of us is perfect or able to accomplish all things on our own.
Our limiting belief is that we can do everything ourselves without any help.
We inherently need other people, and our inability to ask for help often keeps us from accomplishing as much as we could. If we teamed up with others, our combined strengths would allow us to achieve far more than we could on our own.
Now let’s rewrite this limiting mindset with a set of empowering beliefs.
Limiting Belief:
● “I can do everything without help.”
Empowering Beliefs for a Maturing Mindset:
● “I can benefit from the help and assistance of others.”
● “Others have strengths and talents that I do not possess.”
● “I can better reach my full potential with the help of others.”
● “I cannot do everything by myself.”
To rewrite this limiting mindset, we must come to terms with the fact that we simply can’t do everything.
Yes, we may be able to accomplish a lot. But the simple truth is that others have strengths and gifts that we don’t have. There is simply not time for us to try to learn everything about everything. We can tap into the strengths, abilities, and gifts of others.
Next week, we will talk about how to start reshaping our thinking and stop torturing ourselves by trying to be a superstar all the time, a know-it-all, a perfectionist…
Chat soon
Martina
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