Affirmation: Conscientiousness

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Questions to Ask Yourself:

1. Have my conscientious decisions ever been unpopular with others?

2. Do I sometimes get impatient with myself when I spend much time in consideration before making a decision?

3. Are there elements that challenge my approach to decision-making?

 

In every situation, my natural instinct is to be conscientious. I put a lot of thought and careful consideration into everything I do and say, and I am confident that such an approach inspires the trust of others.

My disciplined nature allows me to exercise patience in my decision-making. I believe that it is important to be careful and meticulous in every situation, even when time is working against me. I can be careful and thorough without taking a lot of time.

I allow myself the time and space to concentrate on the mission at hand and this focus helps me make the best decisions possible with the available information. It gives me the opportunity to consider all the factors before coming to a conclusion.

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I stand behind my decisions because I conscientiously make every single one of them.

At work, my colleagues consider me to be a good leader because I avoid making hasty decisions. I look at the position of the company and ensure that my choices are in keeping with our effort to keep the organization moving in a forward direction. I thoughtfully consider all factors to make the most positive choices.

In my social interactions, when asked, I offer advice that I know is well thought out and supported by facts so that my point of view can be trusted.

Affirmation- I am conscientious Doc

 

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How Katherine Krug Raised $1MM in a Kickstarter Campaign by, .@JohnsonWhitney

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Have you raised money from friends and family?

This is one of the first questions an entrepreneur gets when trying to raise money from a venture capitalist (VC).

It’s meant to be a litmus test as to whether or not those closest to you believe in you and your product.

It’s not really a fair question.

If a person is a friend, whether a neighbor, fellow churchgoer, or college roommate, the relationship is personal, not professional. In the jobs-to-be-done parlance, you are ‘hiring’ each other to be an emotional support, not to do the functional job of working together to make money.  If, for example, you’ve ever heard someone say, “I’m surrounded by people with lots of money, but I can’t raise money,” it’s likely the coin of their network is emotional support.  Ergo, they have a tough time transacting, and especially raising money.

Unless they go to a crowd-funding site where success is seeded by emotional support. Katherine Krug, founder of BetterBack, is an excellent example. After experiencing debilitating sciatica pain during her long start-up hours, she started tinkering with how she might deal with the chronic pain.  She hired an industrial designer, and after six prototypes, including plopping a chair down in front of theFerry Building in San Francisco to test her product with complete strangers, Katherine launched a Kickstarter campaign to pre-sell her product.

Here’s what’s interesting about Kickstarter.  The secret to giving your product a real shot is to get it into the Popular category.  This doesn’t require money.  It requires emotional support.  Says Katherine, “I reached out to nearly 180 of my contacts and asked them to pledge $1 each. The majority of them responded which put Better Back on the Popular page.” Once she was on the Popular page, the market would tell her if there were people who wanted to solve the problem she could solve:  get rid of back pain.  She set out to raise $12,500, and has now raised over $1 million.

No amount of emotional backing can make a product successful.  But I wonder what would have happened, or how many months, even years, Katherine would have spent trying to raise $1 million amongst her friends and family, if she’d focused on transacting.

It’s almost always the case that the bigger your network the better when it comes to launching a business.  But the key to activating that network is to know exactly what kind of network you have before you flip the switch.  Because Katherine Krug figured it out, not only will thousands be relieved of back pain, she’s now one of handful of Kickstarter’s million dollar women.

 

 

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Whitney Johnson is the author of Disrupt Yourself: Putting the Power of Disruptive Innovation to Work, and Dare, Dream, Do. Additionally, she is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review. Learn more about her at www.whitneyjohnson.com or connect with her on Twitter @johnsonwhitney

Originally published: May 14, 2014

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4 Ways to Start the Week with Less Stress

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For most of us, Monday tends to be the most dreaded day of the week. Why? Because we often begin Monday, having not prepared on Friday, so we are playing catch up the moment we hit the door. Or, we have to begin a new project. Or, we feel trapped in a project that seems to have no end in sight.

Chronic stress will drain your energy and undermine your mental and physical health. If tensions build up throughout the week, you may have trouble resting and recharging your batteries and your mental energy on your days off. Then, you begin the following week tired out from the outset.

Begin to break the cycle of chronic fatigue and stress with this 4-step plan to squash stress before it accumulates. Start your week off feeling peaceful and relaxed.

 

Practice Relaxation

1. Slow down. Do you rush around from Monday to Friday trying to meet deadlines at work and deliver your kids to soccer practice on time? Wake up early and leave a gap, some breathing space, between appointments. Pause to collect your thoughts, and listen to birds sing.

2. Turn off your smartphone. Try to disconnect for at least an hour each day. Connect with family and friends face-to face instead of texting everyone.

3. Pray and meditate. For many adults, spiritual traditions are the ultimate source of stability and contentment. Study inspirational texts and contemplate how they relate to your personal challenges.

4. Express your creativity. Whatever your beliefs, you can blow off steam by engaging in arts and crafts. Play the piano or knit.

5. Live mindfully. Studies show that humans are not very good at multitasking. Jumping from one subject to another, from one set of tasks to something unrelated, creates anxiety. Focus on the present moment to accomplish more with less effort.

 

Think Positive

1. Edit your self talk. Treat yourself with compassion. Acknowledge your fears and losses. Encourage yourself to keep striving.

2. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Remembering our blessings reminds us of our connection to each other and the divine. The world instantly looks a lot friendlier, and that is reassuring.

3. Let go of expectations. Of course, many outcomes in life are beyond our control. Base your confidence on your ability to adapt to setbacks and changing circumstances. Accept uncertainty, and take pleasure in the opportunity to learn and stretch your skills.

4. Laugh it off. Most of the things that make us uneasy have their funny side. Look for the humor in really bad parking or kitchen remodeling jobs that go way over schedule.

 

Take Care of Yourself

1. Exercise regularly. Physical activity is good for your body and mind. In addition to burning calories, a run through the park will dissolve stress. Find a variety of workouts you enjoy so you can look forward to ice skating or volley ball.

2. Eat a nutritious diet. Diet plays an important role in keeping us resilient and able to deal with stress. Get most of your calories from vegetables and fruits, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats. Reward yourself with theater tickets instead of second helpings of dessert.

3. Sleep well. Your body uses sleep as a time to heal the physical inflammation caused by life’s stress. Go to bed and rise at about the same time each day. Darken your bedroom or wear ear plugs if lights and noise are disturbing your slumbers.

 

Simplify Your Routines

1. Clear away clutter. Clean and spacious settings make it easier to relax. Gather up the items you no longer use. Donate them to charity or sell them. As a bonus, you will find that can complete your housework in less time, eliminating another common source of stress.

2. Buy less. Prevent clutter from gaining a foothold by consuming less. Figure out how many shoes and electronic gadgets you really need. Dump the rest. Make a plan to cycle some things out, as you bring in more up-to-date items.

3. Eliminate unnecessary tasks. Streamline your schedule along with all the other routines. Focus on your most important priorities, and avoid taking on additional obligations.

 

Cut stress off at the source.

Begin your week with simple habits and easy decisions that protect your peace of mind.

You will feel less frazzled and more alive each day!

 

A positive attitude may not resolve all problems Doc

 

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Breaking up with Insomnia… Mostly

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I think I have had issues with insomnia since my early days of medical training. Teaching my mind and body to be functional at a moment’s notice is certainly beneficial in medicine and child-rearing, but it interferes with getting into deep, restful states of sleep. I have spent many years trying to find successful combinations of battling insomnia. Many nights, I have watched the clock pass from one hour to the next, until the dawn arrives accompanied by sleepiness. All just in time to embark on another full day. I have tried many homemade remedies, drugs (prescription and non-prescription), as well as many techniques in between.

I have found two things that help me more than anything else, and will hopefully be of service to you.

Sleep Hygiene

 

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Most of us have televisions, radios, smartphones and many other contraptions in our bedrooms. For some, the white noise of the TV helps them drift off to sleep. But, for most, a small amount of interest is piqued by an infomercial or something said during a dialog. And, before you realize it, you are wide awake again.

Reading can be helpful, if you can keep it confined to light, relaxing, and perhaps even refreshing. If it is something lively, it will often either keep you awake, or become part of your dreams.

Smartphones are the worst. People check their statuses all day and all night. They check the notifications non-stop. They share cute things, make game requests, and do work when they should be resting and restoring their minds. When it should be lights-out, you will find many people staring into the tiny screen.

Sleep hygiene means getting everything not related to sleep out of your bedroom. It means retraining your mind and body to know that the only thing you come into this room for is to go to bed and to go to sleep. Not to veg all night catching up on Game of Thrones. Not to spend money needlessly on things you do not need. Not to begin reading the Rise and Fall of the Third Reich. Not to begin writing your great memoirs. To sleep…

Bedside Writing Materials

 

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One of my issues with sleep is turning off the turmoils, questions and problems of the day. My conscious mind, drifting into unconsciousness seems quite adept at trying to resolve all the issues of the day, or reminding me of something I wanted to write, a particular way to phrase things, something I meant to follow up on, any number of things.

I have learned that if I keep writing materials at the bedside I can unload many of these ideas. The alternative is to stay half-awake trying to remember it, or losing it completely by morning.

I keep a stack of index cards at the bedside. I wake up just enough to grab one, get a pen or pencil, and jot a quick note in the dark. I then stuff the card under my phone and go back to sleep. Some nights have have written things more than once. A few nights I have written 20 or more cards. But, I rest. I can filter them in the morning, picking out what is usable where. I don’t sort as I’m writing. Get the idea on paper, then release it, and yourself.

 

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Chronic insomnia is not always an easily vanquished foe. But, as with all other worthwhile ventures in our lives it takes planning, action, reevaluation, and modification. Sufficient rest is vital to being at our best, mentally, physically and spiritually.

Keep pressing until you find the right combination for you. Your very sanity may depend on it.

Doc

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Affirmation: Using What You’ve Already Got… Internal Motivation

 

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Questions:

1.Which of my traits can I further develop to help me reach my goals?

2. When have I felt too discouraged to keep pushing on?

3. What external factors do I rely on to help me remain motivated?

 

Monday, we asked, Do You Have Power?. In that post we talked about the power that is within us.

And, yesterday, in, The Leader Who Is You, we talked about stepping up our game as leaders in and of our own lives. This is hardly to discount the power outside of us, but that is a discussion for a different post. You already possess some power to persevere through most of your challenges.
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Setting goals helps us to stay on track. Each morning, we can take the opportunity to recommit to working toward our goals. We can be self-motivated and do whatever is necessary to maintain our drive.

Achieving goals should give us pleasure. We can experience the same amount of pride when we accomplish any goal, whether it is large or small. Consider everything that you are responsible for to be important.

When there is a a task in front of you,  consider it vital. Avoid getting into the habit of minimizing the importance of any task, even if it seems trivial at the moment. Remind yourself that these tasks are important to someone.

When faced with disappointment,  work to not let take complete hold of you. Give yourself some space and time to come to terms with it. And then move on.

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A positive mindset allows us to refuel and proceed with greater vigor.

Be resilient, persistent and willing to start from the beginning as many times as is required. Embrace the opportunity to do something better the next time around. There are few outcomes that we should consider failures, as long as we have gained some knowledge or perspective because of the experience.

Whenever you need encouragement, think about your past achievements. They will motivate you to keep pressing on.

 

Affirmation- Self-motivation helps me achieve my goals Doc

 

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The Leader Who Is You

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The term leadership has become such an over-used catchphrase, that people are often confused about what it means. Most of us grew up thinking of leadership in terms of elected government officials, maybe our parents, and most certainly our first few bosses. But we do not always see it as an important quality trait and competency that we all possess to some degree.

 

Definition

Leadership means: 1. the position or function of a leader, a person who guides or directs a group, 2. the ability to lead, 3. an act or instance of leading; guidance; direction, 4. the leaders of a group.

As you can see from its definition, leadership means making an impact on people’s lives, offering some level of guidance.

What Does Real-World Leadership Means

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This does not require that you always have to be speaking from a stage, standing behind a podium, or hiding behind your PowerPoint slides.

It means that you step forward with ideas and suggestions. You live out the principles and values that you wish to see in the lives of the people around you. All people: your superiors, your peers, people who report to you, your family and friends, and, even yourself.

Yes, you lead your own life. Every day you consciously, or unconsciously, choose to change or alter your course, or abandon all control to the “fates.” Which is actually still making a choice; a choice to do nothing.

Leadership is not just about standing in front of people. It is thinking things through, offering suggestions, taking well thought-out risks.

You are a leader with or without title.

You are a leader of something, often whether you choose to be or not.

 

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Be a good leader

Encourage and motivate people.

Dig a little deeper the next time you find yourself faced with a challenge.

The only pat on the back you may get initially is from yourself. But that is enough to keep your motivation motor running.

Thank people.

Catch them doing something right or helpful and acknowledge it/ them.

Leading rarely takes grand gestures.

We are all familiar with Gandhi’s quote: “Be the change you want to see in the world.

“Be” what you wish to see in the world and in other people.

“Be” what you want other people to be to you.

 

Leaders live by choice, not by accident. mark gorman

 

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Doc

 

 

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Do You Have Power?

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This weekend I had great plans to get a lot of writing done, among many other things. I am one of about 5,000 in the area who lived without power for 24+ hours. Obviously that meant that I could not use my computer, could not veg out on movies, and probably was not going to do a lot of going out and running around without good cause.
The garage temperature reached 115, the house, @80 (once the thermostat was back on).

Observations:

Monotonous messages.

Apparently, when the alarm battery starts to die, it goes berserk, blaring the same unstoppable message for 8+ hours. These kinds of messages and the ensuing beeps of every electronic device we have rigged for our safety and security, I think, will drive us mad in the apocalypse long before we reach the Mad Max phase.
I finally found the speaker, a pillow and a box, and got the decibels down to a tolerable level.

Power, Will and Willpower

In spite of the fact that I could not use my computer to type a whole bunch of posts, spend time whining and generally spinning my wheels on Twitter or FaceBook, I had a choice to make. And, that is what we talk about week after week here; making positive choices.
I could have felt defeated and dismayed by what was going on, or I could try to use it to my advantage. Ultimately, I chose that latter, and was astounded at how much work I accomplished.

What Rules You?

What rules us is what is inside, not the externals of life. We are who we are because we can summon up the power to persevere, to find a way through, or a way around.
Choose not to be defeated by your circumstances. Doc
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Transitioning Through Life: Are You Growing?

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Life is one long series of transitions. To paraphrase and old blues song, from the “cradle to the grave,” things keep evolving.

As young children we barely notice these, and are even anxious to get on the the next year or the next step. We push ourselves forward from being babes in arms, to learning to take our first steps, to school, to our first sleep over, to our first driver’s licenses, to getting out of the house for good, etc. As we get older, transitioning seems to be a bit tougher. They seem to take a greater toll. Or, perhaps, we become more recalcitrant, more set in our ways.

 

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Change is a normal part of life. And soon or late, we must evolve with the things happening around us.

I lost several close family members early in my life, so death, while not easy to accept, has become an accepted part of life. Of course, I still have moments of sadness for those I lost long ago, but duty is to life as it stands today, not yesterday.

In the past year or two, I have been going through some other major transitions, some of which I have shared here. And, probably more to share in the future.

Life cannot be controlled. We cannot account for every eventuality and possible outcome.

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Life moves on. Things change. People change. And, believe it or not, we, you and I, change as well.

What was fun or satisfying last year, may not bring nearly as much joy today.

What we used to do for relaxation, may hold little interest for us today.

The things that were important to us to be great at doing, may not bear the same significance in a rapidly evolving world.

The people we used to hang out with, may not be a perfect fit for what’s going on in our lives right now. No, I’m not saying that you need to dump people. But, you do have to be realistic about time and emotional investments and expenditures. Everything comes with a price.

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But, as with everything else, we have choices to make.

We can grow and change and bend with some of the prevailing wind, without giving up who we are or losing our moral compass.

Or, we can stand still and firm, refuse to change, resist any urging to bend or rethink our positions, and be broken in the face of progress.

The key is always to look for your middle ground. Learn what to give, and what to keep…

 

Every ending or exit in our lives, is a new path DOc

 

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Doc

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Affirmation: Grace and Kindness

No Act of Kindness, no Matter How Small is ever wasted Aesop

 

 

Questions to Ask Yourself:

1. What could I do for someone today that would make them smile?

2. How many random acts of kindness could I perform in a day without disrupting my own life?

3. When have I done something kind for someone else without any personal gain?

 

Kindness is not random

 

Although they are often referred to as random acts of kindness, doing things for others is an intentional way of living.

Life is a contact sport

Life is a contact sport, and everyone is carrying some kind of weight or burden in at least one area of their lives. And, just as we hope that others to show us grace, occasionally give us a pass, or just be nice to us on a day that is not going well, it is important that we too extend the same measures of grace and kindness to others. As often as we can.

It is important for us to be kind to others. We should regularly take the time to do considerate and nice things. Even simple courtesies, like saying, “Please” and “Thank you.” This helps to reinforce our faith in ourselves and boosts our belief that we are, indeed, good people. It also shows that we can spend time focusing on someone else without expecting anything in return.

The targets of our random acts of kindness and considerate gestures get to experience the benefits of being treated well, which, they may not get anywhere else. And, we get to enjoy the feeling of their gratification. We can derive great pleasure from doing things for others.

 

Through Compassion and Care we are compelled to kindness

 

When we are showing kindness, being gentle and offering grace to others, we will begin to notice more random acts of kindness coming our way. The more we do to assist others, the more they are willing to do to help us. Our luck and good fortune continue to increase.

We need to be on the lookout for opportunities to do something kind for someone else. Invent new ways to make someone’s day a little bit easier and little brighter.

 

I regularly perform random acts of kindness Doc

 

Grace and Peace,

Doc

 

 

 

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I Can’t!  Or Can I? Guest Post by .@NancySmyth

 

 

 

 

For many years “I can’t” was my mantra. I adopted it in elementary school when teachers would tell me, “You can do this; your brother did.”  Looking back to 6th grade, I see this curly blond-haired me in my blue uniform and white blouse digging in my heels, snarling and proclaiming loudly, “I can’t.” I didn’t like the pressure of living up to my older brother and not being seen as an individual. TRUTH be known, I just didn’t want to do it; and once I declared my position, I had to keep reinforcing it.

Over the years I adopted it as an easy way to cop out. I recruited others to believe me, do it for me, or maybe even feel sorry for me.

A web was cast. I was trapped in a mire of missed opportunities, withheld energy, helplessness, blame of others, inconsistent dependability, thoughtlessness, depletion of power. Living “I can’t” I didn’t want to see or take on new challenges or solve situations. I held no responsibility for the world I created. I sulked.

As a professional, that posture proffered all sorts of excuses and cover-ups to conceal truth. So much so that I even began to believe my own story! A huge hole had been dug. I had separated myself from others and their needs by my self-indulgence.

The only way out was to face the fact that the life I was living was a lie.

Understanding how I fell out of honest relationship with others and myself, I was freed from the burden I had cultivated.  I could begin to respond honestly and responsibly in each situation.

From this perspective I am no longer trapped by my limitations, habits and weaknesses. I am not reactive. I am engaged and honest with the people in my life. I don’t hold others responsible for my shortcomings. I don’t manipulate. Instead, I step forward making choices about what is the best decision to make for the good of all. I understand and tackle what I need to learn or lean into in order to help the situation go well from trivial to major endeavors.

What would it be like to notice yourself on automatic in some variation of the “I can’t” syndrome, even when it is not spoken?

Free yourself.

Nancy Smyth

Nancy Smyth, Master Certified Coach, is the Managing Director of Coach Training and Personal Coaching for the Arbinger Institute, the organization-author of the bestsellers, Leadership and Self-Deception and The Anatomy of Peace. To learn more about the new expanded second edition of The Anatomy of Peace, please visit www.arbinger.com/anatomyofpeace. The Anatomy of Peace and The Anatomy of Peace Telecourse provide practically helpful ways to practice a heart at peace.

 

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What does Attitude Mean to You?

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Alignment

Like many other words we use, attitude brings with it many different connotations, some of which may related to the context in which the word is used. However, when most people hear this word, they often drift to its negative aspects. Thinking such things as “She has a bad attitude,” or, “His attitude about this project sucks.” Or some variation. Occasionally, we may think of a positive mental attitude, but not on a consistent basis.

We think of the word attitude when people or things are out of alignment, or out os synch, with what we are thinking, doing, or expecting. And, of course, compared to us, everyone else’s attitude stinks. :)

Definition

Let us begin at the beginning. What does attitude actually mean? Attitude means 1. manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, of the mind. 2. It is also a position or posture of the body appropriate to or expressive of an action, emotion, etc. 3. As in the photo today of the altimeter, it is an aeronautical term showing the inclination, or position, of the three principal axes of an aircraft relative to the wind, to the ground, etc.

The more you take responsibility for attitude Deborah Day

 

Who We Are

Attitude is not simply the emotion or emotional energy we bring to a situation, but it is our entire demean or and bearing with regard to what is going on around us. It is more than how we react or respond. It is how we hold our head, our posture, ourselves. Are we leaning into a conversation or away from people? Do we have our hands in our pockets, arms cross, or are are our arms relaxed at our sides? Are we making respectful eye contact, or can they tell that we have stopped listening to them, and we are secretly rolling our eyes, thinking about something else altogether, and longing for the moment they will simply stop talking?  Are we nodding in agreement, or just nodding off? It is the full weight of how we carry ourselves through the world.

 

Attitude Determines Altitude. Corallie Buchanan

 

 

Respect for Self and Others

Attitude is not merely a reflection of what we feel about dealing with particular people or situations. It is a signal to others of the respect and value we hold for ourselves. If we think poorly of ourselves in situations, or inferior, we will slouch, not make eye contact, back down from the person who demonstrates some superiority in knowledge or bearing. If we think too highly of ourselves, we will try to dominate everyone and every situation.

What defines our world for us is locked beliefs and values Doc

 

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Doc

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Voluntarily Leaving the Pain of Extremis

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All or Nothing Thinking

All or nothing thinking is a deceptive trap. It either borders on perfectionism or defeatism.

When we work to make things perfect in an imperfect world or system, eventually we can see that we just spinning our wheels, going nowhere rapidly, and we burn out.

Sooner or later we come to conclusion that we are beating our heads against a nonyielding wall and we quit. We stop trying to do our best at tasks or assignments, or we stop trying to push initiatives, and , as best we can manage, we stop taking on new things. Our enthusiasm wanes, and we feel doomed.

You weren't supposed to think. Just feel. katie kacvinsky

 

Poor Investments

The problem is that, whether we are talking about taking on a whole new lifestyle, with exercise, diet, good sleep, etc., or trying to fix several disorganized systems at work, we enter into these enterprises with the same all or nothing.

We invest every bit of our free time figuring what we can eat for each meal, how we are going to get to the gym, before and/or after work, and how to get a yoga or meditation class in, as if it comes in a single package.

Statistics will tell you that the number one resolution foe many people is to lose weight. It i little wonder that gyms make their best cash flow in the first few months of every year. Statistics will also tell you that fewer than 10% will have made any headway, or changed any behaviors in a significant way by year’s end. Actually, most don’t even make it through the first 3 week.

Forget black and white and try on gray. gina greenlee

 

Then, after we figure out all the things we need to do, get them all mapped out on paper, or on our smartphones, we invest our emotional energy into trying to force ourselves to do something we really don’t want to do. And, with the energy left, we beat ourselves up because we failed, or messed up on a particular day.

 

You will go safely the middle way ovid

There is an in-between for everything.

You cannot fix every disorganized system at work in a single day, week, or month.

You cannot lose that 30 pounds you’ve been working on for 20 years, in a month.

You will not go to the gym every day, unless you have an accountability partner to meet you there.

You cannot eat well if you are ponying up to your favorite restaurant for most lunches, and your favorite after-work bar every evening.

Knowledge and hope lie along the middle way Doc

 

Find the smallest steps in what you want to do.

Start pulling on the small threads, and after a while the whole bad habit will disintegrate.

Make lunch the night before and carry it in one day a week, this week. Next week, shoot for two days.

Skip a drink with the boys or girls one night a week, then expand.

Commit to go for a walk with a friend once a week, and gently work up to jogging, if that is your goal.

At work, look at all the systems that need to be fixed, talk to the supervisors about what’s happening in their area, talk to front line workers, get concrete suggestions. Then, choose one thing that is costing the most, or is the most disruptive. Make a plan, and implement.

Find that single step that will begin to lead you in the right direction.

Most of life is gray…

Don’t willingly sabotage yourself.

Doc

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Affirmation: Offering Understanding to Others

 

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Questions to Ask Yourself:

1. When have I struggled to understand the feelings of others?

2. How do I react when I misread the feelings of other people?

3. What are some things I can do to increase my understanding of how others feel?

 

While taking the time to identify our own emotions is important, it is equally as important to make an effort to understand what others are feeling. For example, when you stop at the coffee shop, do you ever really take notice of the barista and imagine how they might be feeling? Probably not.

Recognizing how others feel increases our ability to understand emotions, our emotional intelligence. We can be proud of ourselves when we make the time to understand what someone else is going through.

We have the ability to become more sympathetic partners, actively-involved parent, and dependable friends because of our capacity to truly understand others.

When people talk, listen completely. ernest hemingway

 

Interpreting the actions and choices of others can aid us on our journey to become the best person we can be.

Our lives are enriched when we take the time to identify with the plights of others.

Be compassionate and truly care about the emotional well-being of the people you encounter daily.

We must learn to regard people less in of what they omit, more in light of what they suffer dietrich bonhoeffer

 

We can become more successful in understanding the emotions of others and in finding ways to help them deal with their feelings in positive and productive ways. Of course, this is doing work on us at the same time.

Affirmation- I strive to understand the feelings of others Doc

 

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What Ignoring People Really Says About Us

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Yesterday, we talked about communication and the need to be understood. We can never take for granted that simply because we are speaking, we are being heard and understood. These are all separate parts of active listening, and hold true on the giving and receiving end of things. This also holds true in our personal lives, as well as in our business lives.

Today, we will talk a bit about hearing and understanding, but ignoring people.

 

People, as well as situations, can be ignored, but often to our own harm and detriment. In terms of situations,it is often a matter of fear. If we can overcome fear, feel that the task is worthy, and still cannot get it done, we are procrastinating. Soon or late, for many things in our lives, having ignored situations puts us in a tight spot for not having information, not having done a specific task, or involves a financial and/ or emotional penalty. There is often a price to pay, whether we are gripped by fear, or simply delaying the inevitable.

Ignoring a problem is the same as being ignorant jarod kintz

 

Most of us feel that by ignoring a person, we are shedding some light on their character. They are unworthy of our attention, or compliance. This is particularly true in work situations where there is an obvious hierarchy in place.

Sadly, many people do not realize that ultimately, this behavior shines a light on our own shortcomings. We may be successful once or twice, putting people down by ignoring them, or overlooking them, but it will not increase your level of trustworthiness. Done enough times, and you will be perceived as rude, unfeeling, ignorant, powerless, or just a plain old garden variety bully. You will not be respected. You may be feared, and that may be enough for you to get your job done, for a while, but you will not be respected or trusted.

If you ignore the red flags, embrace the heartache to come amanda mosher

 

And the mirror of life shows us that if we cannot respect and trust others, it is likely that we do not trust and respect ourselves. And this, my friend , is a sad state of affairs, and no way to live.

 

People will remember your silence more than your words every time you fail to speak up for justice Doc

 

 

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