Focusing on yourself

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If you focus on results, you will never change.

If you focus on change, you will get results.

Jack Dixon

Do you sometimes feel that something is missing in your life? Learning to focus on yourself a little more may be one of the keys you have been seeking. If you find that you are spending more and more of your time comparing yourself to others and always seeming to come up short, it is well past time to stop that destructive habit! Comparisons get you absolutely nowhere. Rather than leading to positive improvements, they only cause you pain and discontent.

A better choice is to focus on your own personal desires, needs and wants. You are a one of a kind, a unique individual who requires a personal approach. This helps you boost your self-image because you are focused on improving yourself and not trying to beat someone else in some uncharted race.

Learning to focus on you rather than everyone else around you can be a difficult task. Too often, people are so used to focusing on their families and friends that they do not even know where or how to begin the process of focusing on their own choices and the decisions that determine the course of their lives.

1. Me time

Devote an hour a day to “me time.” During this time, focus completely on you and the things you need or desire to feel strong, lovable and important. Reflect on what is truly important to you. Dream big dreams and figure out the small steps you can take to achieve them.

Your own brand of “me-time” can be anything you would like for it to be. Take a relaxing bubble bath, go for a walk, take a nap, get a manicure, read a novel, or do something else. Choose something that brings you pleasure simply for the sake of pleasure.

2. Mind, body and spirit

Take care of your own physical, spiritual and health needs. Relying on someone else to meet your needs will only lead to dependence and resentment. Don’t wait around for someone else to do these things for you. You have the power within you to meet your own needs and the only way you can be truly whole is to do just it!

3. Get better fuel

Feed you mind and body good healthy fuels. You cannot expect your mind and body to function at their best when you do not provide them with the fuels they need to work at full capacity.

Feed your body good foods: fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins.
Drink plenty of water to keep your body fully hydrated.
Feed your mind by reading informative, well-written blogs, books, newspapers, and magazines. Choose recreational reading that builds your mind and spirit.
Limit your TV watching and spend your time pursuing things that actually stimulate your thinking instead.
Listen to music designed to stimulate your brain waves with binary beats.

4. Find something you love

Spend time every day doing something you love. No matter what your hobby is, it is healthy to indulge in a creative pastime.

Gardening
Painting
Woodcarving
Pottery

5. Journal

Begin a gratitude journal. Begin and end each day by listing five unique things that you are grateful for in your life. Before long, you will find that you spend more of your time dwelling on all the good things you have in the world rather than negative obstacles you may face.

Focusing on you helps you take the best possible care of yourself. It allows you to replenish your batteries and regain your strength so that you can be fully present and engaged in the rest of your day.

Start changing your focus today, and have many happy tomorrows!

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