There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for.
And questions are the breath of life for a conversation.
James Nathan Miller
Knowing how to make lively conversation will enrich your personal and professional life. Oral communication plays an important role in how we learn about each other and draw closer to other people. Here are some methods to help you create better dialog.
1. Listen. Spend plenty of time listening to other people. You will probably notice that find that you need to talk less if you listen more. Strike a balance between the amount of time you spend talking and the time you spend listening. Give others a chance to contribute to the conversation.
2. Compliment. Offer others sincere compliments. Heartfelt compliments will warm up any exchange. Feel free to let other people know that you recognize their good qualities and the positive impact they make, and that you appreciate them and their skills.
3. Be observant. Watch how others respond. Strive to be an astute observer. If people are fidgeting or yawning, it could be a sign of boredom. Perhaps it is time to consider changing subjects or draw your chat to a close.
4. Like-mindedness. Seek out compatible people. Even if you’ve got some unusual, or odd interests and views, you can always find some kindred spirits. Find a fellow cat lover who will commiserate over how to please a finicky eater, or a rafting enthusiast to exchange adventure and war stories with.
5. Prepare. Provide background information for whatever you are trying to communicate. People will be more receptive to unfamiliar subjects if you start at the beginning. Fill in the facts so it’s easier to follow what you’re talking about.
6. Body language. Open up your body language. Friendly gestures and confident eye contact make you appear much more likable and interesting. Stand up straight and uncross your arms and legs.
7. Speak clearly. Slow down and articulate your words clearly. Everything sounds better when you avoid mumbling. Holding your head up automatically makes you sound more energetic and warm.
8. Improve your vocabulary. Increase your word power. The bigger your vocabulary, the easier it is to select the precise words to convey your message. You’ll make a better impression and sound more persuasive.
What additional advice would you offer to someone to improve their conversational skills?
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