Forgiving yourself, believing in yourself
and choosing to love yourself
are the best gifts one could receive.
In the last blog, we talked about how well we treat others, and how comparatively poorly we tend to treat ourselves.
We are quick to show compassion, forgive mistakes, and offer grace to others. But we do not treat ourselves in the same way.
For any number of reasons, we don’t believe that we deserve the same outpouring of love, compassion, grace, and understanding that we give to others.
Maybe we were told at a young age that we needed to be perfect, and we have incorporated this into how we try to live every aspect of our lives. And, if we are not perfect we feel like we need to punish ourselves.
This thinking limits us and makes us feel like we can never be or do enough. This is a chronically unhappy existence!!
Let’s revise this belief with a set of empowering beliefs.
Limiting Belief:
● “I don’t give myself the love, compassion, and understanding I give to others.”
Empowering Belief:
● “I am human and it’s okay for me to make mistakes.”
● “I deserve the same grace, compassion, and understanding that I freely offer others.”
● “I am patient and loving toward myself.”
● “I treat myself the same way that I treat others.”
It’s really important to rethink this limiting belief. If we don’t, we will always be unhappy, and miserable, and feel like we can never do enough.
Please understand that, just like everyone else, we are human. We make mistakes, and that’s okay. Like everyone else, we have off days, and that’s not a problem. There are times when we are not at our peak productivity or don’t accomplish as much, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
In other words, we are not perfect. And, we are not supposed to be.
Our new belief is that we deserve the same grace, compassion, love, and patience that we extend to others.
We are patient with others. Be patient with yourself.
We are loving toward others. Be loving toward yourself.
We have compassion and mercy for others, so have compassion and mercy for yourself.
Simply put, learn to stop being so hard on yourself!
You are human, and humans are not perfect.
You deserve kind treatment from yourself.
Action Steps
● The next time you are being hard on yourself, ask yourself this question: “How would I treat someone else who is in my shoes?” Extend that same loving, gracious treatment toward yourself.
Apply the Golden Rule to yourself.
Get into a habit of treating yourself just like anybody else.
Affirmation
I am human, just like everyone else.
It is okay for me to struggle and make mistakes.
When that happens, I deserve the same compassion and grace that I offer others.
I refuse to hold myself to a standard that I avoid holding others to.
I love myself, even when things turn out imperfectly.
I treat myself as I treat others – with love, compassion, and patience.
Make it a habit: Think better of yourself!!
Chat soon.
