We shift from comparing ourselves to others
to considering our real needs and desires.
We shift from “more” to “enough” and
ultimately get more of what money can’t buy.
Last week we chatted about how limiting it can be to compare ourselves to others rather than being satisfied with our own achievements, progress, and milestones.
We are starting from the ground zero limiting belief of:
● I compare myself to others.
To more empowering beliefs:
● The achievements of others will not determine my value!
● I am valuable simply because of who I am.
● “What matters most is what I achieve, not what others achieve.”
● I am more than the sum total of my accomplishments.
In order for us to rewrite this limiting belief in our minds, it is essential that we understand that the achievements of others simply do not matter to us. Don’t get me wrong. It is not that they lack importance, but the achievements of others cannot and should not be the basis of our worth, success, or value.
We are valuable simply because of who we are. We have inherent value and worth. Our successes should be celebrated, not simply compared to the successes of others.
It matters little how much someone else succeeds. What matters is what we achieve.
Your new belief is, “I am worthy, and I refuse to compare myself to others. Whether I achieve ‘a lot’ or ‘a little,’ I am still valuable and worthy.”
In our performance-driven culture, it is easy to feel that we are nothing more than our accomplishments. But nothing could be further from the truth. Our value simply comes from who we are as people.
Yes, it is important to be productive and seek to accomplish our goals. But if we remain so focused on what others are doing and getting, we will never be happy or content. As Theodore Roosevelt said, our joy will be stolen by comparing ourselves to others.
● Regularly remind yourself that your value is not tied to your achievements.
● Daily affirm that you are enough and that you are worthy.
● Refuse to compare yourself to others.
“I refuse to believe that my value is tied solely to my achievements. I know that I am valuable and worthy simply because of who I am.
Whether I achieve “a lot” or “a little,” I know that I am still enough, and I refuse to fall into the trap of comparing myself to others. The achievements of others have no bearing on my value.
I celebrate my wins without worrying about the accomplishments of others.
I. Am. Enough.”
In our next session, we will talk about why we WANT to take responsibility for our own circumstances.