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Dealing with Emotional Eating

“You’ll never understand the reason, until you look deep enough

into the cut to see the emotional pain

that put it there.”

~ C. L. Bartholdi

Eating is a part of life. Your body gets its nutrients from food. Sometimes we can go overboard with our eating habits and it can result in gaining weight. One issue with food is emotional eating.

The problem of emotional eating may end with the scale but it begins in the mind. Stress can take its toll on your life. When your defenses are compromised, your health takes a hit as do your emotions.

Everyone has good days and bad days. How we deal with the bad ones is what usually brings emotional eating into play. You look for comfort for your hurts. People who turn to food for comfort find a coping mechanism that won’t judge them, hurt them or ever tell them “No.” To complicate the issue, eating pleasurable foods can stimulate the release of endorphins much like exercise does. So, after you eat, you feel better.

Look for Triggers

Emotional eaters use food to relieve stress. They hide behind the food rather than seeking solutions to the problems. This is not uncommon. But, how do you know if you are using food in this way?

The obvious sign is gain weight when you eat too much. In light of the weight gain, you should begin to examine other areas of your life:

* Have you been under stress lately at work or at home?
* Has anything traumatic or really unusual happened in the last year, six moths, or couple of weeks?
* Are you dealing with a problem but haven’t found a solution?

Answering “yes” to any of these questions could signal that you may be an emotional eater. You eat but you are not necessarily hungry at the time. The foods that you choose are what we most of us would agree that we call “comfort foods”:

* High fat foods like French fries, fried foods
* High carb foods like macaroni and cheese, mashed potatoes
* Sugary foods like ice cream, donuts, cookies, cake

Get Help

There is help for emotional eaters. The first step is recognizing that you have a problem. You will initially experience feelings of helplessness and guilt. The guilt is over potentially ruining your health and the helplessness lies in the fact that you don’t see a clear way out.

Secondly, seek counseling. There are many types of counselors that can meet your needs. Emotional eating has little to do with dieting or changing your eating habits but a great deal to do with gaining control over your emotions. A counselor might suggest things like visualization, practicing problem solving skills, relaxation techniques and family support. Visualization helps you to see your problems in a realistic way and not let them get blown out of proportion. You will also learn again, how to see food as nutrition for the body and not as an emotional crutch.

Thirdly, your family can learn your triggers for stress and help you keep alert to changes in your eating habits. They can help you be aware of the foods you are eating, assist you in making healthier food choices and exercise along with you. Proper diet and exercise increases immunity, blood flow and positive thinking. Yoga enhances the mind/body connection so you don’t eat when you aren’t hungry.

Finding new ways to solve your problems and deal with stress will push food out of the equation. You will feel good about finding solutions which will replace your dependence on food.

Thoughts?

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Migraines And Women

Migraines occur far more frequently in women than men. In fact, in adult women the rate of frequency is roughly 15% – 17%, where in men it’s only about 5%.

Menses and Migraines

Studies have shown that it is the withdrawal of estrogen that is a key factor in migraine headaches which are related to menstrual cycles. 25% -30% of all women in their 30’s experience at least an occasional migraine. Menstrual migraines generally last longer than non-menstrual migraines, and often are much more difficult to treat effectively. 60%-70% of women who suffer from migraines have menstrual related migraines. 10%-14% of women with migraines have them only during menstruation. These types of headaches are known as “true menstrual migraines.”

Pre-Menstrual Migraines

Pre-menstrual migraines may in fact be part of pre-menstrual syndrome (PMS). Another disorder, Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), is considered by many to be the most severe form of PMS. PMDD affects 3-8% of women. Symptoms of PMS include but are not limited to: fatigue, irritability, depression, bloating and headaches.

Pre-Menopause and Menopause

Two-thirds of women who have suffered from pre-menopausal migraines find their condition improves with menopause. On the other hand it has also been found that surgical menopause (removal of ovaries before the age of menopaus3e) may worsen migraine conditions.

Treatment options for menstrual migraines

When choosing to treat menstrual migraines with medication, the drugs used most often are non-steroidal anti-inflammatory or NSAIDs. The NSAIDs most commonly used in treating menstrual migraines are ketoprofen (Orudis), Ibuprofen (Advil & Motrin), fenoprofen calcium (Nalfon), naproxen (Naprosyn) and nabumetone (Relafen).

For best results when using NSAIDs to treat migraines, the medication should be started at least 24 hours before menstrual flow actually begins. This therapy should be continued throughout the menstrual period. This of course assumes that your periods are regular and predictable. Gastrointestinal (stomach) side effects are the most frequent problems. However, these are generally not serious enough for most women to discontinue the medication because it is used for such a short period of time. If the gastrointestinal side effects are an issue, consult your physician.

For patients who suffer more severe menstrual migraines or who are able to continue taking oral contraceptives (birth control pills), your doctor may also recommend taking NSAIDs along with these.

Some women find that anti-nausea (anti-vomiting) medicines and pain relievers such as, aspirin, ibuprofen, acetaminophen (Tylenol) are effective enough to dull the pain. Others place their trust in algesics or serotonin agonists like Imatrex, Zomig, Amerge or Maxalt. When using any medication, it is extremely important to be aware of the potential side effects of your medications. You should become aware of the dangers of avoiding a repetitive pattern of medications or re-use of medications as this can cause rebound headaches. Rebound headaches occur when your headache returns or worsens after you have discontinued your medication.

Your physician may also consider using an estrogen skin patch. This treatment is usually utilized on the days leading up to your period and may help either delay, or in some cases prevent, the onset of the menstrual migraine.

A few small studies have found that daily doses of magnesium may help menstrual migraines in certain women. Additionally, vitamins and herbal treatments have been found to be affective for some women. The herb Feverfew or Vitamin B2 when taken on a daily basis may reduce either the severity or the frequency of the headaches, though research has none been done for menstrual migraines in particular.

As mentioned previously, about two-thirds of women report improvement in their migraine condition with the onset of natural menopause. However, two-thirds of women report a worsening of their headaches with surgical menopause. This means that neither a hysterectomy nor ovarian removal (oophorectomy) is recommended as treatment for migraine headaches.

As always you should consult your physician for proper diagnosis before beginning or discontinuing any kind of new medication, including the treatments that you buy over the counter without a prescription. Every person has a unique health profile that includes aspects specific to their physiology and family history and that may keep them from taking certain medications.

Finally…

There are many, many different migraine triggers. The most important recommendation that I can make to you is that if you have frequent migraines, keep a trigger diary that includes a record of foods you eat, the weather conditions, medication you have taken, stressful events, menstrual activity, etc.

You will also benefit by developing a plan around your periods, if you have menstrual migraines. Reduce stress as much as possible, like planning work and leisure commitments around your cycle, so you can try to decrease menstrual related triggers as much as possible.

*Medical Disclaimer: The information in this article is to be used for general informational purposes only. It should not be used in place of professional medical advice. If you have further specific questions, you are urged to consult with your personal physician for additional information.

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Leaderless teams? Hogwash!

The very essence of leadership is that you have to have vision.

You can’t blow an uncertain trumpet.

~ Theodore M. Hesburgh

One of my passions is “Business and Leadership.” It affects every area of our lives. I was in a discussion recently centered on leadership, developing leaders and how to deal with those who do not lead naturally or lead well. How do we develop those people?

How do we grow leaders?

The best method for growing people’s confidence in general, as well as growing the next waves of leaders is by giving them opportunities to grow and to shine. We can either create mock scenarios for them to work through or we can give them pieces of projects with increasing demands and responsibilities as they rise to each challenge.

We give people opportunities to show us “what they’ve got.” We let them do more things on a limited, but expanding basis. The counter argument to this was that, “We do things as a team. There is no us and them.” This will not be a popular sentiment, but hogwash!

The myth of leaderless teams

Imagine if you will you want to start a rowing team. Everyone on your perspective team is strong and committed. Each person has put in time training, hard. They have studied films and are ready to get in the water together and learn and compete. Everyone that you have invited comes to the first “official” meeting, brimming with ideas. Ideas about how to train, where to train, how often to train, picking out the proper boat and which races or competitions they want to enter first.

Together you can sort out who is going to be the stroke master-or if this is going to be done in some sort of rotation. But eventually, you must choose a captain for the team. The captain, in order to be effective, must be a strong-willed, capable, organized person. But, I would contend that the most important attribute of the captain is to be able to harness everyone’s energy and opinions, have the final say, have it respected and then executed.

No matter how much we like the idea of team collaborative effort as the way we get things done, without a leader, a vision cannot be pursued by the team.

Every person can caste a vote and have an opinion which will be respected, but someone must decide. They must decide when there has been enough discussion. They must decide if there is going to be a vote. They must decide, communicate and enforce the final decision that the team will follow, and move forward. They must then decide this is how to move forward. They must keep everyone accountable.

And, so it is with business. If you are a member of a team within a larger organization or running your own shop and have a small team, there will always be one voice that speaks and is heard above the rest. There will be one person who see the vision more clearly, who sounds the certain trumpet of the way forward. This is the leader.

A leaderless team is an illusion, a matter of semantics. A leader must lead. The leader may not have the biggest title or may possess a quiet demeanor, but they do the one job that no one else does, they lead.

Thoughts?

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Enlightenment and Positive Thinking

“The positive thinker sees the invisible,

feels the intangible,

and achieves the impossible.”

~ Unknown

I am certain that you have many “bright” ideas rolling around somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can’t wait to try out. Of course, you’re not the only one with a bright idea. So what is your motivation to keep churning out creative or even inspiring ideas? An idea takes time to form in your head and is always being worked on by your subconscious mind, even when you’re busy sitting. Having a bit of positive thinking can help you bring more of these ideas into reality.

What are the steps to making that happen?

1. Action

Take passionate action toward living your life by design rather than by default. Talk is cheap. But, by taking some action you make deposits into the bank of your passionately authentic future. Without it, without action, passion is void. Action is how the dreams that are made in your mind are moved to your heart and your hands.

2. Commit

Commit to yourself, as well as to those you love, to create a powerful life that you can love living. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul. Create out of a place of love rather than fear. Yes, the dream will always be there. But a dream will always remain a dream without any activity applied to it. You will be amazed as you witness the transformation that will take place once you have committed yourself to action.

3. Perfect moments

Begin to recognize and embrace the thought that each moment of your life is perfect, regardless of the outcome. Whenever you stumble across an idea that may seem too extreme, why not give it a trial run and see if it will work? If you’re not pleased with the outcome, don’t give up too quickly. Use the moment to learn from and make the appropriate shifts and adjustments.

4. Gratitude

Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to utilize what you have at your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way possible. By doing this, slipping into a sense of neediness will become less of a habit. You just have to remind yourself to repeatedly shift toward thoughts of gratitude and away from a poverty consciousness.

5. Passion formula

Use the passion formula of recognize-re-evaluate-restore in place of the shoulda-woulda-coulda sink hole. The former is based on increased knowledge and abundance, while the second focuses on a position of scarcity, lack and fear. As you face people and tasks that may seem a little difficult, allow yourself to remain focused on the fact that the task is important to you.

6. Lighten up

Keep humor at the forefront of your thoughts. Laugh at and with yourself when possible. You will often find yourself quite entertaining if you can loosen up a bit. Life has so much to offer. You can choose to allow yourself to mope around in a self-pity party, or you can inject humor, which is much more attractive, passionate and life giving.

7. It is always in your hands

Believe with all your heart that you are the architect of your destiny. No one can take your passionate future from you, except you! Continue to create your life authentically. As long as there is still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can still accomplish in your lifetime. The concept of thinking bigger is all about enjoying your life.

The choice is yours to make. Instead of subjecting yourself to negative-thinking, make a brighter path by taking the first steps with a positive attitude. Then watch as things flow into place with perfect passionate precision.

Thoughts?

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Stay prepared, because…

Don’t stand in your own way…

Goal Setting: Journal

The important thing is to strive towards a goal which is not immediately visible.

That goal is not the concern of the mind, but of the spirit.

~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Why you need to get a plan?

Arranging your goals lets you achieve more comfort in life. The chief error individuals make is that they set goals to accomplish happiness. Happiness isn’t the real object of your goal. Happiness is something you already have within you all the time. Perhaps you have not completely attained it yet, but it’s already in there.

So today we want to get organized around moving you from considering your goals to accomplishing them. Don’t forget, these are only suggestions. Take what makes sense to you and try it out for a while to see what works best for you.

First, don’t make your goals “oughts” but “wants.”

Goal Journal

Use your journal to track your goals journey. Here you may want to keep a daily or weekly record of your progress including things like affirmations, celebrations, wins, appreciations for your hard work, honors, resistances, obstacles and so forth. Use your goals journal to write goals first and then to re-write them over time. Use it to break your goals into manageable, actionable and do-able steps. Critique your progress on a regular basis and make some notes.

It is absolutely crucial that you get yourself into an inspired, positive and relaxed state of mind, prior to writing your goals. A few ideas for getting yourself into the best state possible include:

Meditation
Listening to inspiring music
Reading something fun or funny
Watching an amusing movie
Taking a walk in a beautiful place
Exercise
Prayer

After getting into the proper mental and emotional state, begin your brain storming. Write all likely goals quickly with no editing and no criticism. You can review and prioritize them later. Right now you want to be as original, creative and loose as you can be.

Break your list down into categories

Here are a number of areas of your life to consider when you are developing your goals list:

Job
Financial
Relationship
Loved Ones
Home
Friends
Personal Development
Wellness
Appearance
Possessions
Fun and Recreation
Travel
Spiritual
Self Respect
Service/Community

Goals also fall into variable periods of time.

Immediate goals
30 day goals
6 month goals
1 year goals
5 year goals
10 years or more goals

Make sure you can achieve what you want in the time frame you have arranged.

When authoring your goal, state it as if it has already occurred. Put your goals in words that presume that you have already accomplished them. For instance, “I have a new car.”

To get you passionate, invested and motivated, add emotional language to your composed goals. For example, “I absolutely adore and am energized about my beautiful new house in the hills!” Which is much more passionate then “I like my new house.”

As your subconscious continues to manifest things literally, you need to compose specific detailed goals. Use language that’s clear in describing exactly what it is you wish. Pose the goals in favorable terms rather than negative ones.

Check in with yourself to make certain that you are considering what you truly want. Everyine has times when they spend too much time trying to please other people at their own expense. You fall into a trap of wanting be successful by attempting to reach the goals your parents, partner, other acquaintances or relatives wish for you. Think about your own most crucial values and beliefs when developing your goals. For instance, if you value freedom, your goal might be to be self-employed.

Pick goals that you can actually reach in a fair amount of time. Using a point system after you’ve brainstormed is one way to prioritize. Give the peak, primo priority goals a score of 10 out of 10 and the less crucial ones a 1 out of 10.

Break every single goal down into manageable blocks, producing a step by step plan to accomplish it. For instance, if you require a new automobile, first decide precisely what color, model, year and brand you need. Write this down in your goals journal. Then write the particular and specific steps you need to get to your goal line.

Most of the goals we imagine are attainable. Everything in life is best achieved with a plan. Try this system of goal journaling. It’s a good system for those of us who are tactile learners.

You want to use everything you can bring to bare and everything at your disposal to help you achieve your goals. You want to keep your goals fresh in your mind and constantly available to your subconscious working mind.

Now let’s get to work!

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Keep Your Mind Active and Engaged

As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind.

To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again.

To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.

~ Henry David Thoreau

There is little doubt that aging gracefully affects our mental ability and agility. However, studies have shown that people who engaged in actively “exercising” their brain often do not suffer from the same mental decline. And exercising your brain is fun! Here’s how to keep your mind active and engaged:

1. Read

Reading actively engages many levels of your brain’s functions. You have to view the words, understand them and in many cases apply them to areas of existing knowledge or experience. You are also learning new things. You’re thinking on many different levels when you read.

To amplify the profound effects, try reading different things. Read the newspaper, fiction and non-fiction and read online information, too. This all combines to strengthen your mind.

2. Meditate

As more and more research is done on meditation, doctors and scientists are realizing the amazing power it has to strengthen the brain. It helps your brain relax and it teaches you how to focus. Try meditating for five to fifteen minutes each day.

3. Puzzles

Grab a word puzzle, like crossword. If you prefer math, get a Sudoko. You can also use brainteasers, jigsaw puzzles and other problem solving exercises. They all force the brain to think critically and to problem solve. They draw on past knowledge and ask you to not only locate that knowledge, but to actively use it and apply it in a different way than you are accustomed to.

4. Learn a new hobby

What have you always wanted to do? Now is the time to do it. Garden, dance, take pictures, write, learn to sew, rebuild an engine for an old car, go rock climbing or white water rafting. There really is no limit to the new things that you can do and try.

5. Exercise your body

Your brain benefits from physical exercise too. And it doesn’t have to be any thing crazy or outrageous. Start simply with a daily walking routine. Join a Yoga class or Zumba. Dance or play tennis. Find a physical activity that you enjoy and get your blood pumping.

6. Feed your brain.

Nutrients found in green tea and salmon can help strengthen your brain. Omega 3 fatty acids found in cold water fish are great for facilitating brain function and keeping your brain healthy. And the caffeine and antioxidants found in green tea are good for brain development and optimal health.

7. Listen to music.

Music engages your brain. Classical music in particular provides several brain health benefits. But Jazz and other forms of music are great, too. And if you really want to amplify the benefits of music, sing along, even if you can’t sing.

Conclusion:

There are many ways you can strengthen your brain. Have sex, laugh more, express gratitude, drink less and have more fun. A strong brain can last you decades and make your later years fulfilling and pleasurable.

Thoughts?

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Top Ten Power Packed Foods

He who takes medicine and neglects to diet

wastes the skill of his doctors.

~ Chinese Proverb

What is the secret to a longer and healthier life? It is in the food that we eat. As you well know all foods are not created equal. Choosing and eating the right foods may help increase your life expectancy, but more important can improve the quality of your life.

Here are ten of the top power packed foods designed to give you energy, vitality and all around good health.

1. Beans

If you have issues with gas (flatulence), take precautions before you eat beans. Soaking them first, helps significantly. Beans of all kinds (kidney, navy, lentils, chick peas, Northern) are high in protein. This is plant based protein, so it contains very little fat, carbs or calories. If fiber is a problem in your diet, eating a healthy portion of beans each day can help your digestive system remain healthy.

2. Oatmeal

Oatmeal has come back into popularity as a food that helps lower your blood cholesterol. You can make it yourself with rolled oats or you can use the instant kind if you’re in a hurry. Oatmeal is a filling grain that also provides much needed fiber to keep hunger at bay and your blood sugar stable.

3. Fruits

Fruits are filled with antioxidants, such as Vitamin C & A. Antioxidants fight free radical damage in the body and reduces the risk of cancer. Berries, such as blueberries and grapes have the highest amount of antioxidants. But choose an array of fruits in a variety of colors for maximum health. The antioxidants in fruit boosts the immune system to fight the effects of aging in the body.

4. Allium Foods

This class of food includes garlic, onions, leeks and shallots. Garlic is known for lowering cholesterol. Allium vegetables help guard the body against the risk of cancer and many other problems. They also help lower blood pressure and prevent blood clots. Eating these power packed vegetables in their natural state, especially garlic, increases their health value and benefits.

5. Salmon

Eating foods rich in Omega-3 fatty acids reduces the risk of heart disease and other conditions like atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries) while salmon is a fatty fish, but it contains “good” fats that have been proven to improve health in children and adults. Salmon is rich in protein, which is of great use after an exercise session to help build muscle tissue.

6. Flax Seed

Like salmon it contains Omega-3 fatty acids, these seeds also contain Omega-6 and Omega-9 fatty acids. You get a lot of power to fight high cholesterol, heart disease and diabetes with this seed. Ground flax seed can be used in many ways. It can be added to fruit smoothies, sprinkled in yogurt, eaten with cereal or added to pancake mix to name a few.

7. Peppers

Peppers are colorful. They contain antioxidants like beta-carotene and Vitamin C. Peppers range from mild and sweet to so hot you’ll be calling for the fire department. All peppers contain a substance called capsaicin. Capsaicin has the properties of an anti-inflammatory, a pain reliever, lowers cancer risks and heart disease. They are good in salads, salsa and all sorts of dishes.

8. Nuts and Seeds

Nuts are high in fat, but those fats are also the good kind. Peanuts, almonds, Brazil nuts, walnuts and pistachios are all providers of good fats and protein. Crush them into a fine powder and use them as a coating instead of higher carb bread crumbs. Nuts also help lower cholesterol. Eat them right out of the shell with no additives.

9. Acai

This berry has been in the news a lot lately. It is rich in antioxidants and increases energy. You can get more done and look better while doing it. You can now get Acai juice and supplements in almost any store.

10.Yogurt

The fat free variety is good for you. Yogurt contains calcium, Vitamin B and protein. If you don’t drink milk, yogurt may be an alternative to get more calcium into your diet to help build strong bones and teeth. Live yogurt also contains “friendly” bacteria to help promote a healthy digestive system.

Building a better healthier body begins with what you eat. Try these super foods to get started on the right food.

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*Medical Disclaimer:

The information in this article is to be used for general informational purposes only. It should not be used in place of professional medical advice. If you have further specific questions you are urged to consult with your personal physician for additional information.

Get Over Your Fear

“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.”

~ Sven Goran Eriksson

Even though we may each define success a bit differently, we all know that fearful individuals are rarely very successful. Your fear can keep you from succeeding and becoming what you wish to become. Fear stops or stalls our progress.

The fastest way to move toward personal development is by confronting some of your fears. The simplest way to do away with fear is by understanding that you are in control of everything. Simple to say, but not always easy to do. You always manifest your principal mental state. The world you see around you is very much an expression of how you feel on the inside. When you begin to fully comprehend this, you will fear less, by altering your mental state.

Be Real

In order to defeat your fear and you must make it trivial. You must either make the fear smaller or make your dreams bigger.

Even when you don’t know precisely what step to take, it is your own single-mindedness that will continue to propel you moving forward. Remember that you are in charge of your mind and what goes on inside of it. Take a serious look at your ideas and see what’s going on with your thoughts about what you wish to have in your life, and what you don’t wish.

You might see your thoughts, or hear them or feel them. It doesn’t matter which. The most important thing is that you learn to enlarge what you wish and shrink what you don’t wish. I’m not talking about simply brushing aside the bad stuff in your brain. I am suggesting that you make it insignificant for the moment, in the now. You are always able to reverse course later if you wish.

Whatever you feel you can change. How you feel can be altered. Remember that you are in total control. Most people just aren’t willing to claim their own power and take active responsibility.

Acceptance

One of the chief ways to defeat your fears day in and day out, is to admit that they are there. They exist. Take a serious look at where it is that you wish to go, continue to move ahead without overthinking the situation, as if you already knew where you wanted to be. There’s no reason to repeatedly second guess yourself, as it will simply hold you back. Regardless of how afraid you are, if you’re always truthful with yourself, you can find a way to overcome or get around it. You know where you wish to go and you know what you need to do to get there. Any fear is trivial compared to this if it’s holding you back. It’s a waste of your valuable time.

Everybody deals with fear, but the successful individuals take action and are willing to deal with the fallout and consequences.

The only downside to trying to think this way is that it doesn’t work on matters you’re not truly passionate about. For example, I’m a little grossed out by insects, spiders, etc. But I’ve no motivation to work hard on that fear, as it’s not really relevant to the rest of my life.

How to make your fears trivial

If a fear emerges, consider where you want to go and determine if you’re moving forward in the correct direction, or moving away from your goal. If you decide you’re moving in the correct direction, recognize the fear and continue moving forward anyway. This calls for courage at the beginning. But, as you become more and more comfortable with the process, it gets easier to believe that it will work in every instance.

Why is it that when you walk down the street and run into a sign that states “Construction, Stay Out,” you immediately consider the best way to get around it and continue moving forward. But when you’re trying to make a more satisfying life for yourself and something comes in your way, you stop dead in your tracks? It’s because of the disciplining, programming and the affiliations you’ve made in your life.

Everything can be changed. Remember you have the ability to do whatever you wish. There are no excuses. Every time you confront one of your fears, it shrivels and finally disappears. The most difficult part is getting through this the first couple times. You already have courage, but to muster up more, look carefully at what it means to buckle under the weight of your fear, instead of moving through it. Life nearly always looks better when you confront your fears and move through them.

If you buckle under your fear, you will have regrets. If you can learn to confront your fear, you’ll continue to grow and moving forward, to a much more fulfilling life.

Thoughts?

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