Musings and affirmations: My relationships are healthy and thriving. 1-20-13

It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone

that we can have a real relationship with them.

Anthony Storr

Affirmation: My relationships are healthy and thriving.

“Each of my relationships is valuable to me. I cherish my friends, family, and work associates, each in their own way. Because of the value that I place on these connections, I invest in them. Therefore, my relationships are healthy and thriving.

I am pleased that I can see the results of my dedication to my interpersonal connections. I devote personal resources to maintaining them, and it shows!

When I have challenging times, my friends and family are there for me. And my associates at work are always ready to lend a helping hand.

When someone I know wants to talk with me, I make the time to listen closely to what they are saying. Then, I respond as thoughtfully as I can. I empathize with their position and I offer assistance, if I am asked. Communication is at the heart of good relationships, so I make sure to keep my skills sharp.

Sometimes, maintaining relationships doesn’t take much time or effort – just caring. A quick text or e-mail can let someone know I am thinking about them. I reach out frequently so that the people in my life know that I care and feel valued.

If a person I care about seems to lack the time or energy to devote to our relationship, I freely bless and release them. I ensure that they know that I am here when they are ready to connect, and I free them of any obligation to do so. This absence of obligation permeates all my interactions with others, and it liberates me, as well.

Today, I am thankful for all of my relationships.

My healthy relationships sustain me emotionally and bring joy to my life. I recommit to strengthening them, one small action at a time.

Homework/ Self-Reflection/ Journal prompts:

1. Which of my connections could use a little attention?

2. What can I do today to benefit that relationship?

3. How is my relationship with myself going?

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