Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the
barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
~ Rumi
There will be times when life may be hard, but there will also always be some good reasons to continue loving life. When the days seem to be dragging you down a bit, you must learn how to cope with and get through such situations and emerge victorious. This may often seem easier said than done. But you owe it to yourself to at least try.
Not everybody has the ability to see sunshine through dark clouds and rain. There are many people who’d rather resort to some knowingly unwise decisions in order to escape the problems that are set before them. If this is your current mindset, then your first job is to assess your situation thoroughly and honestly. The second thing is to look carefully at your attitude. You are the only one who can decide if it is time to change your attitude, take responsibility for your life and make some conscious efforts to initiate self-improvement. See, Why Self-Improvement Is Important.
No one can force you to do anything that you are not prepared to do. The key here is that it must come from inside of you. Improving yourself for the better is a sign of maturity as well as a readiness for life’s bigger challenges. Here are some tips that you can employ if you are on the trek towards improving your outlook and the way you view life.
1. You must always weigh things. Despite the negative forces that life may bring, and life will bring them, there are some things that you can be still be happy about. It will be beneficial for you in the long run if you practice how to be an optimist in spite of wearying situations or dreadful happenings.
Think about it this way. You are not the only person who is going through these trials. And you will likely encounter similar situations again and again. So you must learn how to cope with it at the earliest time possible. This way, you are on the road to preparing yourself to face bigger dilemmas and hurdles that may come your way in the future.
2. Have role models. Having someone that you can look up to with the kind of attitude that you want to emulate will also be beneficial. The process will seem easier because you will be inspired by knowing that somebody else did it and you can look at that person’s current state to continue to be inspired. For a deeper discussion on topic of role models see The Importance of Role Models.
3. Find yourself and your purpose. This seem difficult to do. As you mature, you must be able to have get a clearer and clearer picture of what you want to happen in, with and because of your life. After you have determined your strengths, the areas where you excel, your weaknesses and your talents, your goals in life will also be better defined. You do not need to force the idea because it will come to you when it is the right time. See Purpose and Destiny. Why are you here?
4. Never lose your determination in loving life. This must be the main force that will drive you towards achieving your dreams and fulfilling the purposes that you have set for yourself. But you must not be too hard on yourself if everything that you plan does not happen. You always have to look at the brighter side of things and find out the reasons why you did not achieve what you are longing for. This will drive you to perform better the next time.
You alone hold the key to making a better future for yourself.
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