Too many people overvalue what they are not and
undervalue what they are.
Self-confidence is a thing that many people find difficult to have. This is kind of weird because most people know that their low state self-confidence influences the way they see themselves and how they performance. But, contrary to what many people believe, self confidence is not something that only the gifted few have access to. Any individual can work to begin building up their self-confidence.
Improved self-confidence come with self-development and self-improvement. It is about loving and accepting yourself just as you are. You need to be able to acknowledge both your weaknesses and strengths. Improved self-confidence begins with loving yourself.
To get improved self-confidence, you must also believe in yourself. You must find that place of contentment about who you are. Self-acceptance is a prerequisite of self-confidence. But, self-acceptance means that you must accept the bitter with the sweet. You have to honestly look at and evaluate the good things in your life, as well as your setbacks. Beyond self-acceptance, what else do you need to do?
You need to be able to understand your own true motivations, thoughts and emotions. By becoming more aware of your emotions and behavior, you will be in a better position to overcome and correct your behavior where you deem it necessary. Once you have made the decision to change some of your habits or behaviors, there are a couple of different strategies and methods that you can use gain control over them.
• Self discipline. Changing attitude and behavior, or even shifting your perspective a little, will take time. Change does not occur overnight. You need to gather enough knowledge and have enough insight into yourself to begin to start practicing the skills that you would like to improve and develop.
• Get clear. Having a clear vision of what you want to happen in your life is important. To be able to move forward in your life, you must choose a clear direction. Seeing what you want to have in an increasingly clearer image will help you remain focused and encourage you to continue to work for it.
• Choose wisely. The choice is yours. You can choose what you want to experience. You don’t have to accept or engage in everything that crosses your path. But, doing something that is really important to you, or something that you truly love, will give you enough confidence to continue with what you have started.
• Commit and trust the process. To be able to attain control over your personal development and growth, you will need to trust yourself that you can indeed undergo the process and commit to yourself that you will remain committed to the process.
When trying to develop your self-confidence, you will have to develop some new characteristics. You will develop more self awareness. This involves your readiness to look at your past and present, and accept them. Over and above this, you also will develop an improved self-knowledge which is understanding your past and your attitudes. Not only will you begin to be able to understand them, but you will also be able to comprehend the basis for such attitudes or experience.
Last, you will develop self discipline. Self-discipline is about how you make sure that your goals and vision are translated in action. You need self discipline to make sure that you do not back-out when the going gets a little tough. And it will get tough.
Building self-confidence doesn’t come with a simple snap of the fingers. Self- improvement is be a never-ending process and journey.