Every year, I explain why I do not make resolutions and have not for a long time. The short version of the story is that they do not work in a traditional sense.
We tend to set goals and make a grand list accomplishments that are often out of reach, and are additionally not supported by actionable steps. They are just wishes. You know the usual drill- lose 20 pounds, read 300 books, go back to school, etc. And, when we make our first mis-step, we give up on the whole ball of wax. It is exhausting.
For the past few years, I have used a single word system to try to bring some focus to my life. See links below. About two weeks before the year ends, I can begin to feel the struggle and turmoil as I try to come up with the new word. During this mostly subconscious process, I review what has happened to me and around me during the previous 12 months. I also look at the things I made happen during the past year.
I ask myself some hard questions. What new things did I learn this year? What obstacles have I overcome? When and where have I been successful? Where have I met with failure? When have I been most joyful? Where have I been miserable? Have I been a good friend to those I care about? Who have I helped or hurt? Where have I placed (and wasted) too much effort or given too little? What one thing do I want to bring to life this year, personally and/ or professionally?
I can drag this on for a while (I am a writer after all), but I will come to the point.
After much less angst than usual, my word this year is: VALUE.
“Value” will become the simple filter through which I will sift what I will choose to do, say and be for 2017.
And this blog is one of those spaces in which I hope to begin to see that take shape. I will see you less often, but hopefully bring a few messages of greater value to you.