Dreams don’t work unless you take action.
The surest way to make your dreams come true is to live them.
Roy T. Bennett
Most people know that positive thinking is good for them. But, it can sometimes be difficult to put this belief into action. Is it possible for us to develop a sunny outlook when our bank accounts are almost empty or the boss is yelling at us?
The truth is that you can indeed control your attitude regardless of what is going on in your surroundings. Here are a few practical steps for understanding yourself more clearly and making each day a more joyful and rewarding experience.
Understand Your Attitude
1. Assess your personality.
- Ou personalities are a unique combination of qualities and traits, and our attitudes are the way we decide to look at the world.
- While we can make fundamental changes, appreciating our basic nature helps us to focus our efforts and pick strategies that leverage our unique strengths.
2. Question every assumption.
- Learn how to distinguish between beliefs and facts so you can let go of your limitations.
- For example, you may be single, but unless you live on a deserted island there are other adults you could date. So, it is unrealistic to think that finding love is impossible.
3. Watch your tongue.
- Words are powerful.
- Choose statements that give you and others hope.
- Avoid exaggerations that turn minor irritations into major life disasters.
4. Check your relationships.
- Attitudes can be contagious.
- It is much easier to stay on track when our interactions with others affirm our core value and increase your confidence.
- Share meaningful discussion and activities.
- Resolve conflicts promptly and limit complaining.
5. Manage your stress and your stressors.
- Pressure is a normal part of life. However, you can find constructive ways to let off steam and hold onto your inner peace.
- Set aside time to meditate or pray each day. Take a long walk or soak in a warm bath.
6. Stay in shape.
- Honor the connection between your body and mind.
- It is much easier to feel enthusiastic when you are eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly, and sleeping well.
Changing Your Attitude
1. Set SMART goals.
- Identify one area at a time to work on.
- Making a long-lasting change takes time, effort and patience.
- You want to aim for maintaining your new way of thinking for at least an hour or a day at a time to increase your chances of success.
2. Reframe life’s challenges.
- Be prepared for life’s obstacles.
- Let adversity teach you to take refuge in a constructive mindset instead of surrendering to external conditions.
- Look at the bigger picture and shore up your courage.
3. Get support.
- You can accomplish more by teaming up with others.
- Let your family and friends know that you are trying to create new patterns in your life.
- You will be more likely to stick to your commitments.
- Ask for help when you need it.
4. Get motivated.
- Always remember your purpose.
- The way we think defines our experiences.
- You can choose to be happier and more productive.
5. Keep moving forward.
- Make a plan of action that will help you think differently and transform your old patterns.
- Take the first step. This is always the hardest.
- When you feel tempted to nag your significant other about an errand they forgot, switch your attention to the things you love about them. It will put things in perspective.
6. Double your determination.
- Changing our attitudes requires persistence.
- Just when we think we have become more patient or assertive, something will invariably trigger an old familiar response.
- Use setbacks as a teaching tool.
- Give yourself a reward for making an effort and celebrate each sign of progress.
Look for the brighter side of life and take concrete action to create the outcomes you dream about.
Make it a habit to replace negative thoughts with an inspiring message.
A positive attitude will make you happier and help you achieve more.