Most of the people we encounter seem to have pretty constant moods. There are others, however, whose moods are much more mercurial. Dealing with these often ill-tempered people can become tedious and burdensome in the long-haul.
Some moody people are simply struggling with life issues of their own. While others use moodiness as a means to manipulate the people around them. It is helpful to know the difference between the two types.
No matter the underlying motivation nor the root cause of the moodiness, there are a few…
Strategies that can help:
1. Do your best to be sensitive and compassionate.
- Some people are simply going through a tough time in life.
- If you have ever spent time with a teenager, or remember being a teenager, you know that this age is more predisposed to all sorts of hormonal issues that make managing their emotional state a challenge.
- Sometimes people are despondent, sick, tired, or chronically upset about something going on in their lives. It is especially important to try to be understanding during these times.
- But, some people are just bullies and use their moods to get what they want from others. Keep reading for ways to deal with this type of moodiness.
2. Step away.
- If you life or work environment require that you spend significant time with a moody person, give yourself a break at regular intervals.
- Go do something different or fun and get away for a bit.
- Find a non-moody person to talk to for 15 minutes.
- Go for a short walk.
- Get a cool drink of water and/or splash some on your face.
- Leave the area…
- Dealing with moody people can be exhausting.
3. Remain calm at all times.
- There is little reason to get upset.
- Most of the time, we have done nothing wrong.
- Other people are generally moody for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with us directly.
- We are not charged with solving their moodiness or allowing it to make us feel bad.
4. Dump them!
- It may be time to consider removing this person from your life.
- If you are dealing with someone who always seems to emotionally charging the mood of everyone around them, they are controlling.
- If your patience, concern, and advice do not seem to be moving the dial down, or having any other effect on the situation, and they are making your existence miserable, consider removing them from your life.
- Good relationships consist of both people giving and both people taking.
- If it has suddenly occurred to you that you are always in the giving mode while they are always taking, why are still spending your precious and limited time with them?
5. Don’t take the bait.
- People tend to stay moody because it helps them to get what they want out of people.
- Other people allow them to have their way in order to help maintain the peace.
- But, backing down on a continual short-term basis only increases the challenges we set up for ourselves to deal with in the long term.
- If you reward their behavior, they are much less likely to change, or even see the need to change.
6. Think and work outside the box.
- Learn to ignore the negative mood.
- Act as though the other person is not moody at all.
- Just go on about your daily tasks as if nothing were wrong.
- Eventually, we must come to the realization that we cannot control others, but, we can control our reactions to them and the things they do.
- With a little practice, it becomes easier than you think.
7. Confront their behavior.
- Sometimes we can put an end to moodiness by letting others know that you are wise their game.
- This can be as simple as asking, “It seems as though you have been more irritable lately. Why is that?”
- The last thing a moody person truly wants is for their moodiness to become a topic in itself. If everyone can see what they are doing, it interferes with the ability to use this as a tool.
Be sensitive to those who are moody because they are dealing with a significant challenges in their lives. Some people just need a listening ear, sympathy and a bit of understanding.
Those people who use their moodiness as a means to manipulate other are a completely different story. Quit rewarding these bullies by establishing and maintaining some personal boundaries. Do not let their moods affect the choices you make for yourself.
Learn how to act as if there were no moodiness at all. Allowing these types of people to have their way is a huge mistake. You will only be encouraging the behavior to continue into the future. And, sooner or later, you will still have to decide how to deal with it, and act.
The moodiness of others does not need to have a huge impact on us.
Try a few of these strategies to effectively deal with their negative moods so that they do not continue to be a challenge in your life.