If you think you are afraid of nothing, then you are not being honest with yourself. Everyone is afraid of something. Our fears tend to evolve and change over time. A young child may be afraid of the dark. An adult may be afraid of embarrassing themselves during a speech.
A newborn is afraid of loud noises. All our other fears are learned.
What have you learned to be afraid of?
Try using fear to your advantage:
1. Determine why you are afraid.
- If you are afraid of falling off a cliff and dying, your fear is probably warranted, and further evaluation is required.
- If it is just your ego talking, you know that the fear does not serve your best interests.
- It is often fear that keeps us in our uncomfortable situations.
2. Reframe the situation.
- The fact that you feel physically uncomfortable does not have to control every thought or action.
- When you begin to feel anxious, take this as a sign that something different, and possibly great, may be getting ready to happen.
- Take a step outside of your comfort zone and take advantage of the opportunity.
- Turn fear to your advantage.
- Fear can be a good thing, rather than something to be avoided.
- Evaluate the “risk” and embrace it.
3. Write it down.
- When you begin to make a list of your fears, you will begin to notice a pattern.
- These things may be linked by a fear of embarrassment, success, or becoming isolated.
- By understanding the core of your beliefs about your fears, you can better face them.
- By addressing the core issues, you may be able to eliminate many of your fears at the root source.
4. Use your fear to propel yourself.
- The most successful people have been those that faced fear successfully.
- Conquering one fear makes you more capable of trying to conquer the next. The next fear will be even easier.
- Defeating even the tiniest of fears makes the more significant fears seem more manageable.
- The confidence you gain with each success can be applied to every area of your life.
5. Use fear as an opportunity to practice relaxation.
- Maybe your kryptonite is dinner parties, but they are an opportunity to work on your conversational skills.
- When you are feeling fearful, you have the chance to consciously practice relaxing.
- Focusing on breathing slowly and think positive thoughts.
6. Recognize that many of our fears are self-induced.
- It is our perception of an event that creates our fear.
- And fear is, after all, just a feeling.
- It may include some uncomfortable physical symptoms, but it is a feeling nevertheless.
- If you feel that your life is not truly in danger, your fear is just a guess. When you can realize this fact, you’ll also realize that all of your other feelings follow the same rules.
- If you have the ability to make yourself feel bad, you also have the fortitude to make yourself feel good.
7. Use fear to enhance your discipline.
- Fear comes when our brains try to stop us from doing something.
- It makes us feel awkward and uncomfortable until we move away from the source of our fear.
- Try to use the opportunity to exercise your ability to push through the wall of anxiety.
- Discipline is the ability to do things we do not feel like doing.
- We do not need any discipline to do the things we enjoy.
- Does it take discipline to eat a potato chip? No. It does take discipline to stop.
- You need discipline to face your fears.
- Begin cultivating it in small ways.
8. Get help as you need it.
- You may need profession help getting over some of your more deep-seated fears. There is likely a good reason why they are in place.
- Use the fear as motivation to get the help you require.
- Getting help for your fear could help you move forward with a multitude of new benefits.