Fear can be one of our biggest roadblocks on the road to success. Some element of fear will be a constant companion if we are attempting to grow and achieve. The most successful people are often those who manage fear of success, as well as fear of failure, most effectively. Learning to push a little past our fears is a valuable skill that greatly increases our odds of being successful in our own eyes. Not every fear can be easily overcome, and a few cannot be overcome completely. But most can be managed
How to manage your fear and achieve success:
1. Control your thoughts.
- We can choose to think about anything.
- One of the simplest ways to stress ourselves is to think about stressful things. We are hardly our most effective when we are afraid. We are a bit “less.”
- We can consciously and deliberately choose to put ourselves in a frame of mind that makes us most able to deal with the situation at hand.
2. What is the worst case scenario?
- Stop and think about the worst possible outcome.
- Can you handle it?
- Can you find in a way that makes the worst outcome more manageable?
- If we feel assured that we can know handle the worst, there is little reason to not act and hold on to the fear instead.
- Still prepare yourself for the worst, even though it rarely happens.
3. Breathe deeply.
- Focus on your breath and slow your thoughts down.
- Your mind will take what appears to be reality and run wild with it.
- Focusing on your breathing will calm your mind, and help you think more clearly.
- When stress is at your knocking at your door, threatening to derail “everything,” just stop and breathe.
4. Imagine a positive outcome.
- Bring your level of expectations to a higher level.
- Your dread will lighten a bit if you expect something positive to happen.
- Visualize a future that you find exciting.
- Do this several times a day. Eventually, you will believe it and act on it.
- Physical activity is an excellent way to burn away your fear and stress.
- Go for a quick run, a long walk, dance, or press some iron weights.
- When you find yourself pleasantly out of breath, you will find that your fear has lessened.
6. Get help.
- Speak with a friend or a mentor. But, choose wisely! Some friends and family members are more supportive than others.
- Find someone going through the same thing and console each other.
7. Fear and Change are traveling companions.
- Not much seems to change in our lives when we are comfortable 100% of the time.
- Be excited that you are doing something that creates feelings of fear and excitement.
- Life is about to change. See #4.
8. Write out the benefits of moving forward.
- Create a long list of the positive results that might result from being brave.
- Give yourself several solid reasons to motivate yourself.
- For example, if you are planning on starting a new business:
- Creating a greater income.
- Doing something you love.
- Finally realizing your dream of being an entrepreneur.
- Not to mention you will have the amazing experience of overcoming one of your fears!
9. Go anyway.
- Fear is a poor excuse for not trying something, although it is a socially acceptable one.
- Be brave and resolve to do one thing you fear.
- It will be easier the next time.
- Build your tolerance to fear by facing fear daily.
Do not allow fear to determine your all your actions.
Fear is a roadblock on the path to progress. It is often self-imposed.
Developing the skill to handle fear appropriately is necessary to move forward in all aspects of life.
When we feel fear, we are on the verge of making a significant change in our lives.