Self-esteem is basically having a positive and realistic sense of who you truly are. We like ourselves and we understand our strengths and weaknesses. We have sincere belief in our abilities and recognize the areas where we could use a little more work.
While childhood experiences influence our level of self-esteem, there is a lot more that we can do as adults to boost our confidence and sense of self-worth. Don’t know what I am talking about? Check out, Do You Value Yourself?
Here are a few easy ways to help build up your sense of self-worth, and apply them to your own particular circumstances.
Appreciate What You Have Already Accomplished
Every action that we take either reinforces our self-esteem or it tears it down. Learn to make wiser choices that will help you to take better care of yourself.
1. Make a list.
- Think about your past victories and the patterns that they suggest for future success.
- Perhaps you have found that you perform well when you collaborate with others or narrow your focus to a few top priorities.
2. Line up your actions with your values.
- Think about what you value and how your actions support your own core beliefs.
- Examine which choices cause you stress or create some peace of mind for you.
3. Take calculated risks.
- Feeling confident and capable allows us to dare to reach beyond our comfort zone.
- Audition for a part in the next production at your local community theater or volunteer for a tough assignment at work.
- It is all too easy to say that you have a goal, but it is a lot tougher to see it through to completion.
- High self-esteem helps you to overcome setbacks because you know that you are worth the effort.
- See: Affirmation: Inner strength
Get Your Faith On
For many of us, our spiritual faith helps define who we are and our purpose in life. Let your faith show you how valuable you are, and how precious your own life is.
1. Meditate and pray.
- Set aside time each day to connect with the divine.
- Create a quiet space where you can sit down and still your mind.
- Need more suggestions? Read: Simple ways to decrease your stress: Daily prayer and meditation.
2. Read and share inspirational messages.
- Pick up a few books by a spiritual leader you admire.
- If you are in search of new ideas, browse online and ask your friends what they are reading.
- I put a fresh inspirational quote on my office door every morning. You never know who may need a boost.
3. Discuss your beliefs.
- Clarify your thinking and challenge your assumptions by speaking with others.
- You will deepen your understanding of your faith and discover how to put your beliefs into solid action.
4. Embrace your individuality.
- Your faith will help you to respect your unique gifts and give you the courage to be yourself.
- Authenticity is the basis of true confidence.
Cultivate Social Support
While we are each ultimately responsible for developing our own self-esteem, our interactions with others play a powerful role. Use your relationships to strengthen your belief in yourself.
1. Turn to your family.
- Rely on family rituals that contribute to your sense of self-worth, and work on changing the family dynamics that seem counterproductive.
- You may decide to hold family meetings so you can agree on basic house rules and cut down on continually bickering about boundaries and duties.
2. Deepen your friendships.
- Are your daily interactions mostly about work?
- Disclose your inner thoughts to let others know you and communicate on a more profound level.
Love and accept yourself for who you are. As you build your self-esteem, you will be more likely to make sound decisions and fulfill your goals. You will know that you are worthy of respect and dignity.