On our weekly hangout at DareWhimsy.com, we did a craft, online, live, together. We did it for Mother’s Day, but it is a craft that could be used for any occasion, or non-occasion.
It was a bit challenging, but it was fun to gather and share the time together engrossed in something other than our own trials.
We talked briefly about Mother’s Day, and the very different connotations it has for everyone. Like all the other holidays, it has its ups and downs. Bitter and sweet moments.
But, the holiday, Mother’s Day or otherwise, and the specific craft- trying to make a card online, were all part of much larger conversations about a couple of the issues we each really need to talk about much more often.
Perfectionism is a difficult burden, and an unachievable goal. But we all drive ourselves nuts trying to be at our most perfect best all the time. We cannot sustain the energy of being “on” all the time. We are human, and we will stumble and fall. And, stumbling is okay, especially if we have people around us who love and support us- as we really are, and for who we truly are.
Will this new terrarium get established and survive? I do not know. But the peace and joy were found in the trying… and trying again. And, learning from each step.
Perfectionism causes us to miss out on many opportunities in life for simple joy. The pleasure of laughter and company and gathering and nurturing one another. Which brings me to my second point…
Life is difficult on some level for each of us, often. Good day, bad days, really tough days. The most important way we can demonstrate our care for each other is often in the tiniest of gestures.
Showing up. Sending a card. A brief text. A phone call. Send an unexpected gift. It is presence, and the feeling of presence, of other people that we long for. Someone who will walk beside us during this journey.
So, whether you are a natural mother or not, your mother is alive or not, you have been nurtured by a community of women, or just by one special person, or, you have decided that you were raised by wolves, seek someone out today to show them that you care, and that they are cared for.
Just a small dose of caring for someone else may make their day or week. It may even set your world right.