Questions to AskYourself:
1. In what ways do I let others know that I am grateful for their help?
2. Why do I sometimes (or always) resist asking others for help?
3. How do I feel when other people ask me for assistance?
For the past two days, we have been exploring living life on our own terms. Sometimes, we are alone out of choice, and sometimes, we are not there by our own choosing, and are feeling lonely. There will be moments in all our lives when we feel the pangs of loneliness, and times when we need to withdraw to recharge or rethink. But, either way…
Life is a Contact Sport
We cannot know everything and do everything all by ourselves. Being a “Lone Ranger” may sound like an awesome concept in movies, but we do great disservice to ourselves and to those around us by walling them out, or by never stepping beyond our tiny comfort zone to touch the lives of others, or allowing them to touch us. And, sometimes, we don’t really need help with something, but it is uplifting to others to know that we have some regard for their gifts and talents.
Life really is not about us alone. And…
We can learn to be strong enough to ask for help whenever we need it. By recognizing our interdependence with others we show signs of strength rather than weakness. Those around me can sense my strength of character.
We should remain humble enough to continue to learn from others. They have expertise and skills in areas where we are lacking.
We can choose to be flexible enough, and open-minded enough to try new approaches. Other people will often offer solutions different from our own.
We have the option to be wise enough to see that we need other people in our lives. We all have our own unique strengths and weaknesses. Everyone accomplishes more when the work is performed together as a team rather than trying to do everything as a solo act.
At the same time that we are contributing to the group effort, we can remain conscientious about putting forth our best efforts.
Delight in letting others know how much we appreciate their help.
Find creative, and inexpensive ways to express your gratitude, such as giving a plate of homemade cookies or a thank you note when someone least expects it.
Of course, we can also learn to take every opportunity to pay back the favors we receive with assistance of our own.