“Of course, we all go through our own experiences.
If we do not push ourselves enough, we do not grow,
but if we push ourselves too much, we regress.
What is enough will change, depending on
where we are and what we are doing.
In that sense, the present moment is always
some kind of beginning.”
Setting Goals, and the Achieving Them
We all want to make good, clear, SMART goals. If you are not familiar with the SMART version of goals, it means that the goals should be:
- Specific (what)
- Measurable (how will I know I am making progress)
- Achievable (something that can be done, not “pie in the sky”)
- Relevant (important to work or life)
- Timely (it has a deadline).
But, something often seems to get in the journey between setting the goal, working on the goal, and achieving goal. And, often that thing is us. The tricky balance is between living in the present and living in and for the future. The tricky thing is to be honest with ourselves.
Let us say that the issue is money. I want to save enough money to travel in the future, help my kids with college, retire, etc. But, I also want to enjoy life now, “dress for success” and network with people to help me make more money in the future so that I can do the things I want. The trap says that if we make more, we can spend more and save more. But that isn’t what happens.
Think about it. You may have gotten bonuses at work, pay raises, income tax refunds, some bump in your cash flow. Did you throw it into your savings account or add it to your IRA? Probably not.
How much did that last promotion help to ease your money troubles?
In the example above, our self-talk tell us that we don’t have enough, and we never will; we are not enough, and we can’t be. Our perspective is that we are always striving to get “there,” and we don’t really feel that we can achieve what we want.
You: Your self-talk and perspective have to change from “not enough” to “enough” and gradually to “abundance.
If you do not ever believe that you are enough or that you ever have enough, you won’t.
We already have the resources we need to get the truly important tings done.
Our minds, our perspectives have to change, and then our actions have to change.
I have to change!!
How can I spend less?
Sticking with the example, if I want to save more, I have to spend less.
Eat out less often. Take my lunch to work and enjoy a good book, go for a short walk to enjoy the outdoors rather than the restaurant rush.
Read the books on my shelf that I had to have rather than making a trip to the bookstore to buy more.
Stop at Goodwill. Check out a few items that I might need for my wardrobe, and check out their book section.
Stay in and play some games with the children. Rather than $20 a head at the movies or worse at an amusement park.
Try some new recipes with the family. Cook and learn, and laugh and talk together.
You see, to activate our new lives, we need some new thinking.
And, that new thinking begins with “I am enough” and “I have enough.”