Those people we care about most, seem to often be the most short-change in what we have to give. Sometimes, it is because we feel so overwhelmed with life and work that we cannot see how we will fit one more thing in, even if we feel that it is necessary. Sometimes we take for granted that they will still be around when we finish our current project or venture, or maybe the next one. And, if they just hang out for a bit, we can make it up to them then. You know. Because we will have a better or bigger job/ house. Or more money and free time.
So, today’s burning question is how do you communicate appreciation, affirmation and care to those we care the most about?
I think the answer generally lies in finding the cross-section between our means, talents and gifts, and their desires and needs. And, as we discussed last week in making margin for ourselves, making them a priority as well. We know that they are important to us. And me need to intentionally raise their priority level above many of the things that can wait.
For those I care the most about, the greatest gift I can give is my absolute, undivided attention and presence. This might be face to face over a meal, or Skyping. It might be a phone call, or even a text. To let them know that I “see” them and appreciate them.
When I am fully present, I can hear and discern what they need from me. A shoulder to cry on. Words of encouragement or affirmation. A listening ear. Someone to sit in silence with them. A little cash. Or, just be someone they can be themselves with.
The people we care about the most deserve the best, not the leftovers from our time in the world. Read: Who Deserves our Best?
Who deserves your best, and how do you give it?