Yesterday, 31 Days of Personhood: Day 6: Why, we talked about securing a definitive ‘why’ for whatever we choose to do. Perhaps in the past you have found yourself doing things that you were either not pleased with or you weren’t sure of how you got yourself into a particular set of circumstances. Be assured that if you dig deep enough, there is a ‘why’ holding you to every choice you make. The good news is that you can also use compelling reasons to change your own behavior if you desire.
“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!”
As we continue examining who we are and what makes us tick, we are going to move today to some practical steps to living intentionally.
For the past few days, we have mapped out goals we want to pursue, and things we want to get rid of. We have talked about burying some things from the past in the past, and finding our way forward.
Today we will begin to put a process in motion to work our plans.
Organize or Agonize
Do you find yourself scrambling about every morning, looking for the right clothes, finding out that you’re suddenly out of your favorite breakfast food, counting out what’s in your wallet to see if you can cover lunch, trying to remember if you have copies of your presentation, and miraculously hitting the rush hour when you thought you had time to beat it, and sliding into your office just under, or over the finish line? But, sadly, it is not the finish line, it is just the beginning of your day.
Stop it! Stop it! Stop it!!
There is a better way. With just a little forethought, and a tiny investment of time, you can cure all of these ills. You can choose to set your day, and yourself up for success.
A successful day begins the night before, and we will cut to the chase and outline the process in…
What do I want you to do today?
- After dinner, I want you to mentally walk through tomorrow. What’s on the agenda? Work, a lunchtime talk, picking up the kids from soccer practice, drinks with friends after work, a date with your significant other, bowling league? I want you to think about every single thing that you need to get done tomorrow.
- Write it down if you need to. But, don’t panic, it gets easier each day you practice. And, yes, I want you to commit to doing this for at least a week. Let me know in the comments how it is going, or if you have any glitches in the system I can help you with.
- What’s for breakfast? Do you have what you need at home? If not, put it on a list for shopping day and choose something else that you already have.
- What are you wearing? Is it clean and pressed? Is it appropriate for the whole day, or will you need something else for later? If you have to change, will you do this at home? Are those clothes ready? Are your shoes cleaned or shined?
- What are the meal plans for the day? Eating out? Do you have money? Eating in-office? What are you eating, and is your lunch kit ready to roll? You’ve chosen food and drink, and only need to toss them in? Don’t have what you want? Put it on a list, choose something else, and move on.
- Briefcase, backpack, purse. Do you have notes for your presentation? If you need to take electronics to work, are they charged up and ready to go? Have you packed the right laptop? Do you have a backup of your stuff on a thumb drive which you have put someplace easy to remember?
- Review the day’s schedule before turning in. This will allow your subconscious mind to work on issues without staying awake. If you are prone to waking up with epiphanies and solutions, pen and paper at bedside, so you can write it down, let it go and return to peaceful slumber.
- Breath. Give yourself some space during the day and just before bed to relax in whatever way you enjoy. Long soak in the tub, listen to music, talk and laugh with friends, read, go for a walk. Take care of yourself. Quit that morning madness. It is bad for your health, both mentally and physically. And, it is bad for the people around you, especially your children.
Get your act together, by taking a few minutes the night before to visualize your best day.
Then, set it in motion.