We are continuing our series on Correcting Your Misalignment…
We have talked at length about what drives us to this state, and often keep us there. What we are seeking is some sense of peace between all of the worlds we touch. See: Misalignment: What Drives Us Can Drive Us Mad.
All of these things begin with our ability to peace inside. So, where is this peace? Why can we not seem to hold on to it for more than just a few moments?
Inner peace is something we all hope to find. But like everything else in life, it takes some work to achieve and sustain. Peace is already waiting within each of us, but unfortunately we often lose our inner peace and let more destructive emotions take over. Sometimes these emotions are our own. But, all too often they belong to other people.
However, if we can retrain our minds so that we know what to look for, we can stop these negative emotions in their tracks and keep peace as a important part of our daily existence.
Why and How We Lose Our Peace:
1. We expect perfection. We expect perfection form other, and we expect it from ourselves. Often we do this without realizing it. But we can feel the drive inside always pushing us to strive for perfection to unnatural degrees. You cannot control the emotions or actions of others, so let us focus on you. You need to learn to allow yourself to make mistakes and still have the strength to move forward, instead of punishing yourself further for making a mistake you think you could have avoided.
2.We are afraid. When we allow fear into our lives, and it disrupts our peace. See: Fear is the mindkiller… We have a choice to make here. There are only two possibilities, and you must choose one, or forever remain at this crossroad of life. You can either work to conquer your fears. And yes, it is work. Or you can , accept them for what they are, and find ways to work around them. You will almost instantly feel more peaceful as soon as you make a choice. By making a choice and committing to it, you can make the next logical step forward. 9post the problem is not the problem) . You are now back on the path to restoring a peaceful balance.
3. We are angry and resentful. Many do not realize how strongly negative emotions, such as anger and resentment, can be a detriment to their health and well-being. It can affect your physical and your emotional health. See: Is Stress Eating You? As these kinds of emotions arise, and they will, it is important that you begin by dealing with them immediately. The first step is to take a few deep breaths and release them.
4. We are too busy. In this fast paced world, it is all too easy to take on too heavy a load. If we start to feel too stressed out, we lose our sense interior freedom. We begin to feel that we are slaves to the tasks, or slaves to the people who dole out the tasks. There will be times when busyness and stress are unavoidable. In this case it is important to understand your own work rhythms, and to take frequent breaks.
5. We waste time worrying. Worrying alone has never fixed anything. Sitting and contemplating or stewing over a situation may give you a few insights into what needs to be done, but until you get up and do something, you are stuck. We have to learn to accept challenges and accept our situations at face value. Once you are able to surrender and deal with the circumstances which you now face, you will no longer have to deal with the negative emotions that are at war within you. If you can accept the worst-case scenario, then there is nothing more to worry about!
6. We have regrets. Regrets can cloud your current thinking. The present gets mixed in and mired down with thoughts of the past, all of which are unchangeable. When we regret the past, and keep our minds fixed on what might have been, we lose the opportunity for peace in the present moment.
Everything Happens For a Reason
You must keep in mind that just about everything happens for a reason and everyone who touches your life has a purpose. Think about everything in your life that you are currently happy about and those things which make you proud. Allow those thoughts to bring you joy. Remember that peace accompanies positive emotions.
You may regret a decision or a certain thing that happened to you. Who doesn’t? But, those negative things had to happen in order for you to be given the life that you now live. The positive things would not be there without the negative ones too. You can find peace again by remembering that everything balances out.
For my own situation, my mother was a task-master, and hard, if not impossible to please. Did I enjoy that as a child? Hell no! I found it cruel and hard to deal with. But, as an adult, I have been able to reap the benefit of having spent time reading instead of hanging out. Learning to memorize long poems for church, speaking the “Queen’s English,” rather than doing virtually nothing on the weekends and perfecting my ability to speak slang. Her unyielding nature gave me a ticket out of a life of sustained poverty. It gave me freedom to experience a world so much grander, larger, richer, and broader than most of my childhood peers ever will. It gave me time in books that opened my mind and heart into becoming a seeker at a very early age.
Does any of this make what she did right? No. Can I now call it love? Yes and no. It was all the love she had to share given her circumstances. But, more importantly…
Achieving Inner Peace
Inner peace does not have to be achieved by any particular set of rules. The most important thing to remember is to find something that works for you personally. That can be journaling, prayer, solitude, jumping rope, meditation, listening to your favorite music, taking a bath, whatever…
You must set a certain amount of time each day that you will dedicate to maintaining your peace.
By applying a few simple steps, you will achieve an unshakable freedom within you! And that is where we need to begin.
What Do I Want You to Do Today?
1. I want you to go back to the first post in this series, Correcting Your Misalignment…, and choose your “one thing.”
2. I want you to write it in the comments below.
3. I want you to also write how much time you have chosen to devote daily to your avenue of peace.
1. My one thing I want to do that will impact the rest of my live is to learn to speed-read.
2. May avenue of peace is journaling. (of course)
3. I commit to spending 30 minutes of every day to this activity.