A creative style of living,
coping with difficulties and weaving possibilities,
can not only produce useful accomplishments for self and world
but can offer the creator new resilience,
in the moment, joy, and purpose in life.
At some point in your life, you have undoubtedly had to deal with a situation that was totally out of your control. Whether it was a car accident, financial difficulties, or other challenge, these events cause stress and frustration, which have the potential to negatively impact your health and mental outlook on life.
Learning how to cope with events you cannot control will help keep you in a positive frame of mind and alleviate your stress. Consider using something like the Serenity Prayer, written by Reinhold Niebuhr:
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
The words of this prayer exemplify the solution to a problem that plagues all of us. Once you have come to terms with the fact that you can control only your own actions and reactions, you can begin to find peace of mind.
What is within Your Control?
Worrying about the people or events in your life that you cannot control can cause all kinds of stress-related health problems, such as angina, high blood pressure, and sleeping difficulties. If you need to feel more in control of your life, focus on those things that you can physically change.
Who you decide to accept as your friends and spend your time with is something you can definitely control. It may not be easy to meet new people, but the opportunities are plentiful if you look for them.
Spending time with negative people can drag your attitude down, since we tend to adopt the mood of people around us. If you have people in your life who are not encouraging you to fulfill your potential, find other people to surround yourself with. Having the support of people who believe in you will propel you toward reaching your lifelong goals.
One Day at a Time
When you intentionally consider each day as it’s own gift, your struggles may not seem as dire. While life does deal some bad hands to us, such as death, divorce, and financial challenges, to name but a few, how you cope during these hardships can either make you stronger or they can destroy you. When you purposely feel gratitude for the good moments within each day, you can genuinely start to accept your struggles as a path to a new beginning.
Coping with Financial Difficulties
One of the most stressful situations is coping with financial difficulties. Loss of a job often means having to give up things you have worked hard to acquire.
- If you are having a difficult time accepting that you have to cut expenses and give up the comfortable things in life, even temporarily, it helps to remember that it could be, or get, a lot worse.
- Be grateful for having your home and your health because there are many people in the world who have neither.
- Once you know you can be content with less, you can focus again on achieving your goals.
- Begin planning your financial future, rather than falling into it.
By accepting that you cannot change some things, you will become much more powerful in changing the things that you actually have some control over. You will also free yourself from the negative thoughts and the emotion quagmire that can stifle you into sad complacency, and keep you from getting anything done.
Use these strategies to help you cope with things out of your control, and you will be on the road to finding peace, joy, and the passion to persevere through all challenges.