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Has negative thinking hindered your efforts to live, learn, and grow? Your personal beliefs about yourself and your life matter more than most people ever realize. In fact, those beliefs become the very foundation upon which you build your life.
What are some of the common self-limiting and self-sabotaging thoughts?
- “I will never be able to save any money for retirement.”
- “I guess I will never fall in love again.”
- “Why can’t I find any trustworthy friends?”
- “I will be overweight forever.”
- “I am sure that _______ will get that promotion over me.”
- “I wish I could take a vacation to __________, but I know I will never be able to afford it.”
- “How will I ever live the life I want earning what I earn now?”
If you can identify with any of these statements as you worked through the like, it is time for you to take some much-needed steps to break your cognitive ties to those thinking patterns. How?
Strategies for thinking in a new direction:
1. Stop labeling yourself. If you see yourself as “poor” financially, then you may unconsciously be striving to match that label. Or if you think of yourself as “fat” you may be unable to imagine yourself as beautiful and thin.
2. One small step at a time. As you continually move toward your goals, you will gain the momentum to keep on going forward. Rather than thinking that you are unable to achieve success, make a real plan of achievable steps to ensure you do.
For example, perhaps you would like to take a European vacation. Instead of believing that you will never get there, establish a small weekly savings goal of $20, and keep putting the money aside until you have enough.
3. Learn to be your own best friend. Love yourself enough to be your own best friend. Do this by giving yourself the benefit of the doubt. Think positive thoughts such as, “I can do this!” When you practice this, you will be simultaneously rejecting self-limiting thoughts.
4. Believe in you! Instead of insisting you will “never” do something, say that you can, and then go out do it. If you turn those negatives thoughts into positive actions, it will also help boost your self-esteem. Trust that you can accomplish, succeed, and prevail.
5. Check the veracity of your thinking. Ask yourself, “Is what I am thinking/ saying really true?” For example, is it an absolute reality that you will never be able to save any money at all for retirement? It doesn’t have to be true, unless you strive for that condition.
Alter your mindset by beginning your retirement fund today. At the end of each day, put all your change into a jar. Then once a month, take it to the bank. See how simple it is to begin saving?
Question your self-limiting thoughts. When you realize that they are unrealistic, untrue, and within your power to change, you will be able to break away.
6. Recognize the power in your negative thoughts.
“You create who you are by what you think about yourself.” ~martina
Why not turn that power into positive energy that will drive you toward the things that you really want in life?
7. Learn from your mistakes, missteps and errors. Instead of using your past against yourself, think about the knowledge that you have gained from each of your experiences. Perhaps an important relationship dissolved a few years ago. The loss of that relationship certainly does not mean that you will never find another partner again. Rather than getting bogged down with self-limiting thoughts and self-recrimination, reflect on the shortcomings of your previous relationship. What role did you play?
If you proactively learn from your previous mistakes, you will make healthier choices in the future.
When you apply any of above strategies to your life, you will begin to see the possibilities that are all around you. You can do anything that you set your mind and heart to. Extinguish those self-limiting beliefs right now so that you can begin embracing the good life that is yours for the taking.
To your continued success!