Wanting to be someone else is a waste of
the person you are.
A healthy self-esteem is a starting point for a more contented life. Unfortunately, when you lack self-esteem, you will also lack the ability to reach your true potential. Why? Because your thoughts are more powerful than you realize.
It starts with your belief system
Most of you have heard the statement, “If you can dream it, you can do it,” but painfully few people actually take this statement to heart. For some reason, large goals seem daunting and an “I can’t” mentality begins to take root.
While everyone experiences negative thoughts from time to time, you may need to make an extra effort to get through your challenges. Positive thoughts must be victorious in the end!
Tips for developing self-esteem
Developing a healthy self-esteem does not need to be a difficult task. There are several small changes that you can make to get yourself on the right track.
1. Ignore the nay-sayers. For some unknown reason, there are people who get their jollies by putting others down. You know that you should not be listening to these people, but sometimes you take what they are saying to and about you to heart. It is particularly hurtful when it is coming from someone you love and respect.
Some people will even go out of their way to steer you in the wrong direction. When all is finally said and done, you are the only one who knows yourself and your dreams. You simply cannot let anyone else stand in your way!
2. Learn to accept compliments. This is a tough one. You may often find yourself tossing off compliments because you believe that they have ulterior motives. While this may be true, in most cases people are being genuine with you. After all, most people won’t go out of their way to puff you up with a false compliment.
Learning to accept will help you discover what you are good at and strengthen your self-confidence.
3. Get a coach. Life coaches are in the business of helping people live their lives to its fullest potential. You don’t need to be scared or embarrassed to seek one out. If a life coach does not seem like a feasible alternative for you, you can look into getting some self-help guides.
Search online or at your local library or bookstore to find some relevant workbooks and resources.
4. Affirmations. Affirmations are great self-esteem boosters because they show your brain what you already know you are capable of achieving. They bring positive energy into the present moment.
You can read affirmations on the subjects of your choice, you can get into the habit of writing your own affirmations, or you can check us out here every Saturday and Sunday. Nothing can be more targeted to your true feelings than your very own words!
5. Stop making comparisons! Avoid comparing yourself to others. It all too easy to get into the habit of comparing yourself negatively to other people. Remind yourself that everyone is unique. You are equipped with your own set of strengths and weaknesses. The best thing you can do for yourself is concentrate on developing your own strengths.
Follow Your Dreams
Once you have worked on your initial feelings about self worth, it is now time to take a step in the right direction. Part of a healthy self-esteem is having the drive to take concrete action toward your goals.
Have a plan and follow through. If you feel that you have improved your self-esteem but then fail to take action toward your dream, it will only be a matter of time before your self-esteem begins to wane again, and you find yourself in the same old rut or slump again.
When you are faced with challenges, actively seek solutions. When you do, you will soon begin to notice what an important and positive role your healthy self-esteem plays in your life!