There is an old adage that says something like, “everyone wants change, but no one wants to be changed.” Even for the nicest of us change can sometimes difficult. Change means altering how you do something, how you perceive something, and often learning a new system of how things are meant to flow.
We are going through a major computer upgrade at work, one of many areas of my life undergoing transition at the moment, and while I have done fairly well with some of the past minor upgrades, I too have resisted. You see, like most of you, I have been doing many of the things I do for a very long time. And, yes they have worked well and served me and those I serve well.
However, as the world around us continues to change, new systems enter into our lives. We can protest and struggle and rage against the machine and try to resist the change, but it will come nonetheless. As I have struggled to incorporate some of the “new” things and still try to do things my way at the same time, I have an increasing sense of disconnection with who I really am. Then came the epiphany! And, hopefully this will help you, too.
When you cannot change what is going on around you, do not let it grind you to emotional dust.
If you cannot change “it,” the external, and you do not plan to quit anytime soon, then the focus has to be turned inward. I cannot change “it,” so I must work (and yes with a bit of struggle involved) to change me, my attitude and how I will get my work done going forward. Because at the end of the day, it is our authentic selves we would like to face in the mirror.