Too many people overvalue what they are not and
undervalue what they are.
Some people have it, and some don’t. Self-confidence is a thing that many people find difficulty in achieving. Low self-confidence can influence the way you see yourself and your performance. Contrary to what most people think, self confidence is not something that only the “gifted few” have.
Improving your confidence is an important part of self-development and self-improvement. It is ultimately about loving yourself and accepting yourself as you are. You need to be aware of and accept your weaknesses as well as your strengths, and everyone has both.
Self-acceptance comes first
To become more confident, it is important that you first and foremost, believe in yourself. It is important that you become content with yourself. Don’t get it twisted. I am not saying that you should be settling for anything less-than. But in order to develop better self-confidence, self-acceptance needs to happen somewhere along the line. It means you can accept the good things, and the “failures” in life.
What else can you do?
1. Learn to understand your thoughts and emotions
By becoming more aware of your emotions and behaviors, you should then be able to modify or correct them. And, once you have made the choice to change a habit or behavior, there are often many different strategies and methods that you can employ.
2. Self discipline.
Changing your attitudes or behaviors, or even for that matter, your perspective will take some time. Change does not come overnight. You will need to educate yourself first, and then practicing the skills that you desire to improve and/ or develop.
3. Visualize it
Get a crystal clear picture of what you want to happen in your life. In order to be able to move forward in your life, it is absolutely vital that you have clarity. Seeing what you want to have in a clearer image will both encourage you to work for it, and help you make a clear road-map of how you plan to get there.
4. Choose wisely
The choice is always yours. You can, to a large extent, choose what you want to experience. By choosing to do something that is important to you and something that you also love, will give you enough confidence to continue down the path once started.
Commit and trust! To be able to develop and grow, you need to have complete trust in your ability to go through the process that you have chosen, and that you will remain commit to the process.
When choosing to consciously improve your self-confidence, there are some other characteristics that need to be developed as well. You need to develop your self awareness, which is about your readiness to look honestly at your past, accept it and move forward into the future.
You need to improve your self-knowledge which is about understanding your past and our attitude. Not only do you need to understand them, but also be able to look at the basis for such attitude or experience.
Last, you will need to develop self discipline. Self-discipline is the way in which you make sure that your goals and vision are translated into the appropriate actions, and ultimately achieved. You need self discipline to make sure that you do not back down when things get a little difficult, or when you have little disappointments and setbacks.
Building self-confidence doesn’t happen overnight. Self- improvement is an ongoing, and for some, a never-ending process. In order to succeed in your dreams, you will need time, patience, perseverance and self-confidence.