It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone
that we can have a real relationship with them.
Anthony Storr
Affirmation: My relationships are healthy and thriving.
“Each of my relationships is valuable to me. I cherish my friends, family, and work associates, each in their own way. Because of the value that I place on these connections, I invest in them. Therefore, my relationships are healthy and thriving.
I am pleased that I can see the results of my dedication to my interpersonal connections. I devote personal resources to maintaining them, and it shows!
When I have challenging times, my friends and family are there for me. And my associates at work are always ready to lend a helping hand.
When someone I know wants to talk with me, I make the time to listen closely to what they are saying. Then, I respond as thoughtfully as I can. I empathize with their position and I offer assistance, if I am asked. Communication is at the heart of good relationships, so I make sure to keep my skills sharp.
Sometimes, maintaining relationships doesn’t take much time or effort – just caring. A quick text or e-mail can let someone know I am thinking about them. I reach out frequently so that the people in my life know that I care and feel valued.
If a person I care about seems to lack the time or energy to devote to our relationship, I freely bless and release them. I ensure that they know that I am here when they are ready to connect, and I free them of any obligation to do so. This absence of obligation permeates all my interactions with others, and it liberates me, as well.
Today, I am thankful for all of my relationships.
My healthy relationships sustain me emotionally and bring joy to my life. I recommit to strengthening them, one small action at a time.
Homework/ Self-Reflection/ Journal prompts:
1. Which of my connections could use a little attention?
2. What can I do today to benefit that relationship?
3. How is my relationship with myself going?
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This is a great article. Like you, I make time to talk to people who need or want to talk to me. I like your idea about the tips for making relationships better.
Thank you, Janeane, I appreciate the compliment and support. Yes, we have to make time to cultivate relationships just like anything else that is important to us.
Thanks, Janeane. Yes, we must make time to cultivate and nurture our relationships, just as we do with anything else that is important to us. Thanks for the comments and the compliments. I appreciate you.