“If there is nothing new under the sun,
at least the sun itself is always new,
always re-creating itself out of its own inexhaustible fire.”
Its the end of the year and you are beginning to think about some of the changes you want to make in and for your life. We watch it in the entertainment industry all the time; an entertainer used to look a certain way and behave a certain way in public or while performing. Then, one day, you see them on TV and wow, they are someone new!
Perhaps the entertainer’s hairstyle has changed, or her style of clothing isn’t even close to what she used to wear, or maybe he is relating to people in a completely novel way. They have re-invented themselves! You, too, can make such changes and step out in a whole new you! And, yes, we all should be happy with who and how we are, but just in case, here are suggestions about…
How to transform yourself:
1. You already know where I am going to tell you to start. Sit down and make a list. What is on your fantasy list of changes you want to make? Let your thoughts and ideas flow and jot them down. What would you change about yourself if you had the power?
2. Focus on the top 3 things you wish to change. For the best success, direct your energy to no more than a few things at a time. Just as in any other project, it is very easy to become overwhelmed and discouraged by taking on too many things at once. Once you have made your list, circle the top 3 items you want to work on.
- To illustrate, maybe you have decided that you want to change your hair color and style, reduce your weight by 15 pounds, and wear a more classic style of clothing.
- Perhaps you want to work out to build up your stamina and muscles, discover a new relationship, and develop a deeper interest in your career.
- And remember, it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, as long as it is important to you. For instance, when I was graduating from elementary school and going on to Jr High School, I decided that I no longer wanted to be referred to by my nickname. I reasoned that I would be meeting mostly new people and began to introduce myself by my given name. This was one of many turning points in my how a I conceived of myself, my transition from child to adult, my movement from from immature to focused. This one tiny thing placed me on a different path, and I have never looked back. BTW, I have one very longterm friend who can still call me by that “other” name, and its OK too.
3. Look at your “Why.” The most important question you will need to answer for yourself is, “Why do I want to do this thing? To what end?” Ponder the reasons you wish to make these changes. Dig deep within yourself to consider why making these changes are important to you. Were you bullied in high school and don’t feel very positive about yourself? Do you believe you can move closer toward the type of life you want if you make the desired changes?
- Maybe you think that you will be happier or more successful when you take steps to become the person you want to be. Giving some thought to the reasons you want to change these aspects of yourself will help you recognize where you want to be heading in life.
4. Plan. Design a brief plan for each area you want to alter. Using some of the examples from #2, getting a different hair color and cut is as simple as setting an appointment and going to the hairdresser. Losing the weight will take a little bit more thought and effort. What will you do today to get started on your plan?
- You might cut out sodas and fattening desserts and have lighters breakfasts of yogurt and fruit or 1 scrambled egg with 1 toast.
- Doing a wardrobe overhaul costs money. Plan to get the clothing you want little by little. Consult fashion websites and a friend who has an eye for color and clothing to learn about styles and basic wardrobe pieces.
5. Document. If it is a physical thing, take “before” pictures. Photos will motivate you to continue your efforts.
6. Check in with yourself. Explore how you feel about beginning to work toward the changes. Do you feel positive, confident, and pleased that you’re finally going to “do something?” You might be experiencing some doubt or hesitancy in getting started. What makes you feel that way? This step is absolutely integral to your capacity to continue your path of self-re-invention.
- Connect with your feelings to be successful in creating a new you. Remember that you must buy into this process to get started and to see it through. If you have serious doubts or even fears about taking steps toward what you want to be in life, consider consulting a life coach or counselor to help you move forward in your quest.
7. Act! Put your plans into action. If all systems are “go,” move forward without any further delay.
8. Reward and reinforce. Notice the subtle changes that you achieve along the way. Develop ways to reinforce your efforts to successfully alter the aspects you wish to change. Take a few pictures of yourself as you notice changes and display them where you can view them for motivation. After all, you’re doing what you have set out to do—re-invent yourself!
Creating a new and improved you can be a very exciting time in your life. Embrace this phase of life with all you’ve got. After all, you’re worth it.